Children Who Rest with My Ancestors: Part 1

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Trigger warning: this is a discussion of miscarriage, and I include some intense emotions and strong imagery.  Please be cautious if this is a triggering subject for you.Last week was the fifth anniversary of my first miscarriage.  I remember this horrible moment throughout the year - the day I found out I was pregnant, the day my baby was supposed to have been born - but none stands out more than this day.  I was three months pregnant, supposedly beyond the danger zone, but I had been bl … [Read more...]

10 Great Reads of December on Paganism, parenting, social justice, and celebrating the season

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A monthly round-up of the best links shared and discussed on our active Facebook and Twitter streams.On Paganism and bringing babies into the world:"This Life Is Important" by J. Brown: "As a professional yoga teacher, I almost never use the term: “Life Force.” It just feels too woo-woo or cheesy and triggers my revulsion for new-age fluff. However, in attempting to describe the experience of witnessing my wife giving birth to our second child, I can think of no other term that fits more … [Read more...]

July Link Round-Up: Body theology, parenting, loss, and the spiritual path

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The Pagan Families facebook page gets lots of requests to share other pages and links. In order to maintain the quality and focus of the page, I only share them if they have something to do with Paganism and pregnancy/parenting/family life (you'd be surprised how far off-topic some requests are). There were plenty of great on-topic links in July:On being embodied:"She offers us the possibility of understanding and experiencing the menstrual cycle that we embody as kin to the cycle of mo … [Read more...]

Annual Spirit Babies Ceremony + Pantheacon

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I've received word that this year's Spirit Babies ceremony will take place on Sunday 12/15 in Berkeley, California, from 12-2pm. It's an interfaith service for those who've been touched by abortion, miscarriage, or stillbirth. The organizers say on their Facebook page: Up till now, there has been little like this in the US. Women experiencing these losses have mostly been alone and isolated. There is a stigma around pregnancy loss, no matter what the cause, and little opportunity to share s … [Read more...]

Pregnancy and Infant Loss Remembrance Day

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Pregnancy and Infant Loss Remembrance Day is October 15. At The Amethyst Network, we've been working on making some new images for the purpose of sharing either in advocacy or support. There you can find different buttons designed for sharing on social media or blogs on both Facebook and Pinterest.Tonight, I went to a candlelight vigil in my town in honor of this Remembrance Day. I took my little rainbow daughter with me and we spent some peaceful time at dusk in the park with my friend and … [Read more...]

How to support someone who’s having a miscarriage

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I just finished reading the second of my required books for getting listed as a loss doula with the Amethyst Network. Miscarriage: Women Sharing From The Heart is a great book for anyone who wants to understand the normal range of emotions around miscarriage, which includes everything from barely noticing the event to feeling painful and traumatic loss.The book is especially validating for mothers who experience powerful grief. One of the women quoted in the book expresses something that … [Read more...]

Celebrating Doulas

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This is the last day of World Doula Week. Doulas provide physical, emotional, informational, and spiritual support during reproductive experiences.Traditionally that's meant birth, where there's good evidence that continuous support improves birth experiences and outcomes. But increasingly doulas are providing support for all kinds of reproductive experiences, like miscarriage, abortion, adoption, and the postpartum period.Doulas often do very practical tasks, like bringing you water to … [Read more...]

Group Ritual to Acknowledge Miscarriage

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This ritual is designed as a ceremony of healing and empowerment following miscarriage. It is based on a ritual that I had following my own miscarriages in 2010.Anyone who has experienced miscarriage and who would like to acknowledge the impact on her life is welcome. So too are those who would like to act as witnesses and keepers of sacred space for those who grieve. The simple altar is laid outdoors on the ground near an already dug hole (for planting a tree). It contains a small bowl, a … [Read more...]


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