Finding the Goddess in You

I have been an utter crank lately. So today I want to be completely positive. I’ve loaded up on chocolate and played some upbeat music (although do you think Britney Spears ripped off the Bellamy Brothers? Difficult to call for me.)

I’ve written before that I have always been closer to male Gods than female Goddesses. I’m trying to work on that. I’m housesitting for a nice lesbian lady who’s house is full of Goddess images and feminine energy. I’m working with my female ancestors more. I’m thinking more about what it means to be a Pagan woman. Yet the thing that is helping me the most is you. Yes, you. The Pagan women I have come to know as friends and internet acquaintances.

Over the past year I’ve managed to meet some phenomenal Pagan women. Some famous, some not. Crones and maidens and mothers and everything inbetween. Women who embody every possible aspect of being female. Women with children. Women who chose to remain childless. Women in long committed relationships, women who create loving fluid relationships, women who are happily alone. Women who work to benefit the community in myriad ways.

The most important of these have been my priestess. Lady Jasmine has been very supportive of me and very patient with me. I am not an easy student to have. I am cranky, opinionated and often silly when I should be serious. Yet she has taught me for this past year with wisdom, humor and a staunch confidence in her views. Which is good because I am an odd Wiccan and a bad student. She has exemplified loyalty, hospitality, friendship, wisdom and discipline. Being her student reminds me that just because my head is full of random trivia doesn’t mean I still don’t have a lot of practical Witchcraft to learn. After leading my first group ritual a few weeks ago I am in awe of the work she puts into every ritual. Being her student has been a great experience for me and I hope I do her honor by living out what she has taught me.

There are many other women in my tradition who are also wise, gracious and have taught me a lot, even without realizing it. Seeing my “mother coven” fall in to preparing for a ritual is amazing. It’s like a small village working coming to life. Astounds me. Not to leave out the men, my priest and the men of my tradition are incredible people, but I just needed to give credit to the women today.

There are the women I have met at festivals and writers I have met through my work at Patheos. They are strong, joyful and compassionate people. All so different and beautiful in their own ways. There are woman I have met through Facebook, through Twitter, through podcasts and as readers of this blog who inspire me everyday.

It’s becoming more and more clear to me that despite what Jean Paul-Satre says, the Goddesses are in other women. They are all around me. They are there in your words, your voices, your faces, your movements, you actions and your spirits. I feel blessed to know the women in my life. I’m the least Goddessy curmudgeon you’ll ever see, but in knowing and interacting with really fabulous Pagan women I think I’m becoming a better woman. I think becoming more feminine when I see the Goddesses in you.

*I didn’t name a bunch of names because I didn’t want to forget anyone. I named my priestess just because she deserves it. Seriously. She puts up with me!

About Star Foster

Polytheistic Wiccan initiated into the Ravenwood tradition, she has many opinions. Some of them are actually useful.

  • A.L. Thomas

    My own connection with my female ancestors did not really start until I did a genetic test through National Geographic. The test traced my female line back as far as it can go (the Eve in Africa, bad name for her, but I understand why they chose it). The male side is so much easier to trace through last names, but the women of my line had been lost through those male names. I found out that my female half was not Western european at all (which is what I was expecting) and this helped me to understand why when I’m trying to call on my female line I was getting fuzzy stuff at best (I was trying to force it into British lines of my fathers, not the Eastern Bedouin part of my female line). That was the key that helped me unlock the ancestor door.

    • http://www.patheos.com Star Foster

      Fascinating. I’ve considered doing a genetic test but I feel a bit like that’s a Pandora’s box. Still mulling it over.

      • A.L. Thomas

        It completely changed the way I look at my heritage. I am so very glad I did it. I found out things I would other wise have never known about my ancestors. Well worth the cost

        • http://www.patheos.com Star Foster

          I think I may do it. I’ve been doing a lot of ancestor work lately and this feels right. Thanks for the heads up!

    • http://kauko-niskala.blogspot.com Kauko

      I signed up for a genetic test back in December and received my kit in the mail. Unfortunately, as often happens in my house, the kit has been sitting on top of my desk for a month and I haven’t, ummmm, *insert a pleasant sounding euphemism for fill the vial with saliva* and mailed it back to them yet. I’ve been curious to find out what my results might be every since I’ve heard about this kind of testing.

      • http://www.patheos.com Star Foster

        Sounds like it’s time to hock up a loogie! (Is that how you even spell that?)

  • A.L. Thomas

    My own connection with my female ancestors did not really start until I did a genetic test through National Geographic. The test traced my female line back as far as it can go (the Eve in Africa, bad name for her, but I understand why they chose it). The male side is so much easier to trace through last names, but the women of my line had been lost through those male names. I found out that my female half was not Western european at all (which is what I was expecting) and this helped me to understand why when I’m trying to call on my female line I was getting fuzzy stuff at best (I was trying to force it into British lines of my fathers, not the Eastern Bedouin part of my female line). That was the key that helped me unlock the ancestor door.

    • http://www.patheos.com/ Star Foster

      Fascinating. I’ve considered doing a genetic test but I feel a bit like that’s a Pandora’s box. Still mulling it over.

      • A.L. Thomas

        It completely changed the way I look at my heritage. I am so very glad I did it. I found out things I would other wise have never known about my ancestors. Well worth the cost

        • http://www.patheos.com/ Star Foster

          I think I may do it. I’ve been doing a lot of ancestor work lately and this feels right. Thanks for the heads up!

    • http://kauko-niskala.blogspot.com Kauko

      I signed up for a genetic test back in December and received my kit in the mail. Unfortunately, as often happens in my house, the kit has been sitting on top of my desk for a month and I haven’t, ummmm, *insert a pleasant sounding euphemism for fill the vial with saliva* and mailed it back to them yet. I’ve been curious to find out what my results might be every since I’ve heard about this kind of testing.

      • http://www.patheos.com/ Star Foster

        Sounds like it’s time to hock up a loogie! (Is that how you even spell that?)

  • http://twitter.com/madoldgoth Khlari

    I’ve always fancied doing the genetic testing too, but slighly nervous what I might find.

    I have however been much happier in myself since I started following a pagan path…

    • http://www.patheos.com Star Foster

      What I’m fascinated to discover is how much African ancestry I have. I’ve had some dreams about an African ancestor and since i have Cherokee ancestors there’s a good possibility I have African ancestry as well.

  • http://twitter.com/madoldgoth Khlari

    I’ve always fancied doing the genetic testing too, but slighly nervous what I might find.

    I have however been much happier in myself since I started following a pagan path…

    • http://www.patheos.com/ Star Foster

      What I’m fascinated to discover is how much African ancestry I have. I’ve had some dreams about an African ancestor and since i have Cherokee ancestors there’s a good possibility I have African ancestry as well.

  • http://pulse.yahoo.com/_WT5Y2IBII67B6U5JU7K3SOG5UU Sarenth

    In a way, my spiritual path relates to this, though those I work with from my ancestry, the Disir, are incredibly powerful Ancestors, but not Deities themselves. While I haven’t gotten a genetic test yet, connecting with these incredible women has influenced my path in a number of ways, not the least of which is reconnecting with long-dead relatives and women of my bloodline, some of whom are wise, powerful, or just ‘regular women’ who lead good lives and bad, passing down Their lessons and their own brand of magics to me.

  • http://pulse.yahoo.com/_WT5Y2IBII67B6U5JU7K3SOG5UU Sarenth

    In a way, my spiritual path relates to this, though those I work with from my ancestry, the Disir, are incredibly powerful Ancestors, but not Deities themselves. While I haven’t gotten a genetic test yet, connecting with these incredible women has influenced my path in a number of ways, not the least of which is reconnecting with long-dead relatives and women of my bloodline, some of whom are wise, powerful, or just ‘regular women’ who lead good lives and bad, passing down Their lessons and their own brand of magics to me.


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