Would Arranged Marriage Work For Pagan Communities?

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Many of you probably already hate this idea, just from the title. Let me save you some time: I know that you hate it and I know why you hate it. I already know that most Pagans do not share the views I'm expressing here, and I don't care. Now that that is out of the way...I've been thinking a lot about the concept of family and continuity in Pagan communities and culture. We tend to base our communities on people who are religiously similar to us, but who rarely have a deeper connection. It … [Read more...]

How Gays Are Saving Marriage

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I've tried to write this post several times, and simply haven't felt I could rise to the subject matter, because it's quite personal, not merely for me, but for many of my dear friends. Before I took my blog off in a new direction, I told my roommates I would write this, and they gave their blessing. When I originally told my roommates I was going to write about this, I joked that it would be in the style of a faux-exposé with bombshells like "Married gays fry chicken!!!!!" But months of living … [Read more...]

Delphic Maxims: Intend To Get Married (Γαμειν μελλε)

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This is the first difficult Maxim I have to address, and not nearly the hardest (because there's one I intend to dismiss entirely so stay tuned). This is a Maxim geared towards a specific cultural norm that no longer exists. Yet some of the root virtue inherent in this Maxim still applies.Marriage meant children, and continuity. It meant maturity and stability. It meant status. It meant family. It meant love.So how does this translate into modern culture? For one thing, marriage doesn't … [Read more...]

Gingrich Equates Gay Marriage to Paganism Like It’s A Bad Thing…

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Newt is awesome. He is so arrogantly oblivious to his own hypocrisy that sometimes I suspect his whole campaign is run by Stephen Colbert. He is a gift to political comedians everywhere, and for once he said something sensible about marriage (amidst his usual sea of hypocritical crazy). The effort to create alternatives to marriage between a man and a woman are perfectly natural pagan behaviors, but they are a fundamental violation of our civilization. - Newt Gingrich I bolded the part he … [Read more...]

Religion Is Not A Matter Of Style

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Yeah, I know. You already hate this post. Just from the title. I don't care.I read a lot of religious blogs every day, from various faiths. Mormons, Hindus, Pagans, etc... A lot of it is boring or irrelevant to me. I could care less what insight someone has had about the book of Ephesians. I'm not interested in a spell to induce psychic visions. But I skim through these blogs for a lot of reasons. It's good to know what other people are thinking. Some days I think Progressive Christians … [Read more...]

Structure Without Restrictions

Much of the argument surrounding the marriage debate is really regarding structure. Structure isn't a bad thing. We all need a set of parameters to support the lives we build. The problem with structure being imposed on us is that no one set of parameters fits everyone. We are diverse by nature.If Pagans want structure, if they need structure, they often have design it to fit. Pagans whose families have rejected them, or who do not identify with monogamous heteronormative lifestyles, have to … [Read more...]

Life, Liberty and the Institution of Marriage?

Yesterday I was reading Timothy Dalrymple's post on the gay marriage debate. Tim's a good fella but we don't agree on a whole lot. So it's not surprising when either of us disagree with something the other wrote. Yet something in his post made me do a double-take: But here’s the thing: no one ever claimed that the legal recognition of gay marriage is going to harm your marriage.  The claim is that it will harm the institution of marriage.  And, with all due respect, the institution of marriage is … [Read more...]

Of Course Gay Marriage Can Last!

Time for another straight person's take on gay marriage, or as we like to call it in Paganism: marriage.While at Pagan Spirit Gathering last week, Arthur Hinds stood up and announced same-sex marriage had passed in New York State during Morning Meeting. A few hundred religious people of varying sexual orientations erupted in cheers. They didn't politely clap. They didn't think "Well, that's nice for them." None sat on their hands or look mildly perturbed. Without any more prompting thasn a … [Read more...]

Wyrd Designs – Wedding Customs in the Northern Tradition

While part of the world may now be in Royal Wedding-mania, all I can say is, I grow a bit weary of all of the news and media coverage, especially of the fluff stories of the really tacky merchandise, or finding Kate’s face on a jelly-bean. Dear world media, really? Is that the best thing you can come up with by the dateline?I wish Wills & Katie the best, and I hope that all the problems that so plagued some of the last royal couples don’t plague this new generation. But I am very glad the d … [Read more...]

Beltaine: Marriage-Minded Muddle

Beltaine is the marriage of the Lord and Lady for many of us. I could express all the rich symbolism of union and creation of this time of year purely in song lyrics and poetry. We celebrate this conception and ripening into Parenthood, and continuation of the species, and continuity and familial joy with great mirth. Which can seem a bit odd considering how little support our communities provide for those Pagans who seek this out for themselves.Single Pagans have a confusing set of … [Read more...]


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