Great sites for men to talk about being a husband and father are kind of hard to find. What I find out there typically ranges from the choose your own adventure type, the Mr. Magoo extreme, or the Manpaks.com extreme – which is better, but can get kind of raunchy & hardly touches on spirituality. My friend Jovan Brown has a pretty cool blog called Toward Fatherhood, which seems to be able to strike a pretty good balance. Jovan is blogging his way through parenting, fatherhood, marriage, career, and so on in a pretty honest and humble way… check it out if you are interested.
Here’s an excerpt from a recent post:
Love for a spouse, on the other hand, seems to comes with so many conditions. Promises were spoken. Arrangements and compromises have been made. He should grow up a little. And she should know better. He’s a grown man, for cryin’ out loud! And she’s just inconsiderate. Expectations are disappointed, one after another. Chores are divided. Each party has to pull their weight. Payback and parity become central, and soon enough all we can see is the imaginary scale that weighs “how much time he spends with the guys,” versus “how much she’s spending on new clothes and makeup.”
But what if… we could love our spouses…like we love our children? What if loving a child really is the easy stuff…and being an ideal spouse is indeed something akin to being a parent? What if, having learned to love a child, loving a spouse became…more like the easy part? Could you love your spouse 100% today – totally free of expectations – and trust that tomorrow will arrive in time, with a new, fresh bundle of love to share?