Does Income Inequality Undermine Marriage?

I’ve been beating the income inequality drum for quite some time now. The  one of the most unnerving developments in the history of our society. Income inequality will destabilize even the most resilient society, and it nearly always leads to corruption (see Citizens United). I read an editorial in the Chicago Tribune this morning that argues marriage is undermined by income inequality.

The editorial is based on a study by University of Virginia sociologist Sarah Corse and Harvard sociologist Jennifer Silva, who interviewed 300 working- and middle-class Americans about marriage. Their paper, “Intimate Inequalities: Love and Work in a Post-Industrial Landscape,” chronicles the impact of our societies changing economic situation.

What their research showed was that increasing economic pressure on lower, and lower middle class workers has become a disincentive in regard to marriage. At the same time marriage has changed in our culture to a “therapeutic” model – based on what will make a person more happy (as opposed to Christian Marriage that is about the life of the world). Marriage is viewed more like a luxury item.

The research seems to suggest that this kind of marriage is undermined by the growing income inequality, and the fact that low wage workers, and lower middle class workers feel less stable, less willing to take the risk of needing to “provide materially and emotionally for others.” Here’s an excerpt.

Thanks to falling working-class wages, the outsourcing of American manufacturing, the thinning of company benefits, and the rise of part-time and self-employment, American jobs are, in many ways, less stable than ever. Unskilled workers without a higher education are finding it more difficult to translate blue-collar work into middle-class stability. Many of the working-class Americans interviewed by Silva and Corse are now too concerned with maintaining their “own survival” to “imagine being able to provide materially and emotionally for others.” Meanwhile, marriage itself has transformed into a luxury item. Over the past century, the old model of obligatory American marriage, which was “rooted in male authority” and “backed by both religious and legal mandates,” gave way to “companionate” marriages dedicated to prioritizing “the couple as equal individuals” in the family structure. Now, as Silva and Corse tell it, a new age of “therapeutic” marriage has arisen to focus on the “happiness, equality, mutuality and self-actualization of individuals.”

That self-actualization doesn’t come cheap. The rise of the freelance economy and the decline of traditional marriage has made life less regimented for middle-class Americans, too. But middle-class people benefit from the educational backgrounds and salaries necessary to stabilize their own careers and relationships outside of these traditional social structures. People like Earl and Jan can spend their paychecks on therapy, horses, college and gyms to stay happy together. Even middle-class Americans who can’t afford to buy their kid a pony have more resources to maintain their relationships through economic instability. For people at a certain education level and salary potential, the self-employment economy can provide the flexibility to spend time with their families; sharing resources with a partner is more likely to be an investment than a risk.

But people like Cindy and Megan can’t afford to invest in this new model (and the old model, where a male breadwinner provided for the family, doesn’t exist anymore). As traditional work and family structures crumble in the United States, middle-class Americans have the money to build relationships, yet remain satisfied as individuals. For working-class Americans, personal stability sometimes requires staying single and avoiding the risk of abuse, abandonment and even more economic and emotional disruption.

What do you think of this?

The line that interests me the most in terms of its connection to income inequality is, “Unskilled workers without a higher education are finding it more difficult to translate blue-collar work into middle-class stability.” The income boost which used to help wage workers make the move to the middle class and stay there is now going to the top 1% in our economy.

The line that most interests me in terms of marriage is, “a new age of ‘therapeutic’ marriage has arisen to focus on the ‘happiness, equality, mutuality and self-actualization of individuals.’” I think this is far from the Christian view of marriage.

About Tim Suttle

Tim Suttle is a pastor, writer, and musician. He is the author of several books: Shrink: Faithful Ministry in a Church Growth Culture (Zondervan 2014), Public Jesus (The House Studio, 2012), and An Evangelical Social Gospel? (Cascade Books, 2011). Tim's work has been featured at The Huffington Post, The Washington Post, Sojourners, and other magazines and journals. Tim is also the founder and front-man of the popular Christian band Satellite Soul, with whom he toured for nearly a decade. He has planted three successful churches over the past 13 years and is the Senior Pastor of Redemption Church in Olathe, Kan. Tim's blog, Paperback Theology, is hosted at Patheos.

  • scott stone

    Tim,

    I know you are super concerned about income disparity and I have a great paper for you if it’s something you’d like to read. It’s a bit long but it’s by Scott Winship from Brookings. This dude is a serious academic and really knows his stuff. The problem is that it will run counter to a lot of what you believe about how serious of an issue inequality is. Brookings is a center-left think tank and I really like their perspective on a host of issues, especially policy in relation to society. I’ve read this a few times this summer just to try and get my arms around it. As usual this is above my pay grade. Here is the link. http://www.nationalaffairs.com/publications/detail/overstating-the-costs-of-inequality

    • karla from CO

      Excellent article, Scott! Thanks for sharing, as it says much of what I feel on this subject. All the “inequality” jibber-jabber is just that, too often. It’s become such a tired, trite word that is applied to far too many subjects.
      We can’t all be “equal” in all ways, only in that we have the equality of opportunity and rights that all Americans share, and that all Americans use in different, inequal ways – as is only right since we are not all the same and have a rich variety of goals and hopes and talents.

  • Tami Terry Martin

    Thanks for calling attention to this subject for this audience, Tim. It’s one I beat the drum for as well in my little circle. But there are so many little threads that weave this particular blanket. “If money weren’t an issue…” there would still be a problem with marriage. The church talks a big game about valuing the sanctity of marriage but does little walking the walk. We didn’t need gay marriage to “destroy” marriage…heterosexuals did just fine with that on their own. But so many of the problems do seem to come from economic disadvantage. That disadvantage is spreading and the church seems to want to do little besides blaming the poor for their plight.


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