Discipline Vs. Punishment

I used to think that Discipline = Punishment. I grew up in a house that spanked, and although I didn't like it I figured there wasn't any other way to maintain order. I read all the books that said that every child needed to be spanked, and not only that, but that the bible commanded us to do it. With my oldest child I dutifully tried to follow the guidelines I had read about in the Michael Pearl or Ezzo books. Spank consistently for every offence. Never spank in anger. Don't use your hand because your hands should be used for loving. Plus the Pearls promised in their book that if you started early, by the time they were 6 or so they wouldn't even misbehave anymore and then you wouldn't have … [Read more...]