When You Are Everything You Were Taught to Hate

A first time guest post written by my partner and spouse, Haley. In the recent wake of North Carolina Amendment One to ban same-sex marriage; CNN had Tony Perkins the president of the Family Research Council, an evangelical think tank and political lobbyist group in Washington, D.C., on their show. The CNN host asked the [Read More...]

Christianity and the LGBTQ Community

Since the publication of our coming out series, I have received many many emails and comments. They have ranged from people with similar experiences, to people who affirm LGBTQ persons and consider themselves allies, to people who cannot reconcile their faith with LGBTQ persons but are still accepting and compassionate. The other day I got [Read More...]

When Kindness Raises its Head

In seminary, we learned that people are often angry with, or have other issues with their pastor, we had to expect that people with daddy issues would probably have an issue with their pastor, people who were hurting could take it out on their pastor and be overly critical and/or defensive. One of the interesting thoughts regarding [Read More...]

Summary and links

Well. Now you all know why I said in the introduction that my Unwrapping the Onion series was intense to write and publish! I had no idea how it would be received, but the response has been amazing. Some of you have come over from where this story was summarized and linked at Jezebel, and [Read More...]

Unwrapping the Onion: Part 9: Starting a New Life

This post is the final post in a series. Please click here to start with the series Introduction. It’s the spring of 2012 now, and we’ve moved to a new home in a new city and are making new friends and starting over. We’ve officially left the ministry and are making new career plans. My [Read More...]

Unwrapping the Onion: Part 8: Coming Out, Bit by Bit

 Found via Pinterest  This post is part of a series of nine posts. Please click here to start with the series Introduction. It was getting harder and harder for my spouse to put on a masculine facade when we went out. At home, after all, he was able to just be himself. It [Read More...]

Unwrapping the Onion: Comments

I have always published pretty much every comment. Seriously, the only ones I have ever deleted were the “Hi, you should come check out the lawn mowers we have for sale” type of comment, the ones that are completely unrelated to the material in the post. The other exception was commenters who were name-calling and/or [Read More...]

Unwrapping the Onion: Part 7: Charting a New Course

This post is part of a series of nine posts. Please click here to start with the series Introduction. It had been a year since my spouse had come out to me. It felt like it had been much longer. So much had changed and yet nothing had changed. We still hadn’t decided how Christianity [Read More...]

Unwrapping the Onion: Part 6: Talk of Transition

This post is part of a series of nine posts. Please click here to start with the series Introduction. Even though we had hoped that it would be enough for my spouse to simply be more authentic to his feminine self, it seemed that the idea of transition was coming up more and more. My [Read More...]

Unwrapping the Onion: Part 5: The Beauty of Acceptance

Found via Pinterest This post is part of a series of nine posts. Please click here to start with the series Introduction. It was the end of 2010. I was starting to question the existence of God while my spouse was as Christian as ever. Sometimes I did not understand how he could keep believing [Read More...]