Oblivious to Privilege: Part One

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A guest post from Haley...I’ve lived with society perceiving me in different ways over my lifetime.At one time I was perceived to be a straight white cisgender male (now obviously I was really a closeted transgender woman but the world didn't know that.) In the year before I gender transitioned, I pushed gender boundaries, my style was fairly genderqueer and many people perceived me to be a gay male. Then during the first six months of living as a woman as the hormones started and a learning curve happened, I was regularly visibly identified to be a transgender woman. And for the last six months as my transition has progressed  I “pass” and the world perceives me to be a white woman, … [Read more...]

Malpractice on the Air

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It was almost midnight and I was driving home after my usual shift. Yawning, I pushed the radio button hoping to catch a peppy song to keep me awake, but the station that usually plays pop music had one of those call-in counseling shows on. “Hello Brooke, so you are 19 and pregnant?”“Yes, unexpectedly so.”“Wow, you’re going to be a mom.”“Yeah, I’m excited, but nervous, because I don’t have a lot of support ya know?”  I fumbled with the dial, trying to change the channel before I got sucked in, but it was too late.  “Don’t you have family?” The host asked.“Well, they don’t really want to be a part of my life.”“Oh, that’s sad, why not?”“Well, they th … [Read more...]

On Being Evangelized

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I can usually spot them when they come in. The "superchristians". The excessively patronizing men make the order while the women stand quietly in their long skirts behind them. The group of middle aged women who come in for their bible study, order each of their drinks individually, and never ever tip.Or the conservatively fashionable woman who takes forever to make up her mind what she wants, and then when she decides on an herbal tea for it’s health benefits, she plucks up her courage and shakily makes her evangelistic comment about how amazing it is that god has made tea.One time I spotted a middle aged couple sitting rigidly next to each other across from their long-haired  adult … [Read more...]

February in photos

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February has seriously been the longest month ever.      Of course, I'm not including all the kids, because I don't really put pictures of them here. And this should include pictures of Haley at school and me at work. And maybe a few of me laying around in my pajama's aching and sick, because that's how I spent two weeks of this month. (It felt much longer.) Who else is ready for spring? … [Read more...]

Happenings

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Every once in a while when I get a bunch of small posts that aren't really big enough to be a post of their own, I do a hodge-podge post. So here's the latest. On the drive home from dropping people off in the morning. Ms Drama: Mom do you looove the hair on your chin?Me: Um, I don’t know? (What a weird question!)Ms Drama: You know, because it helps you win when you play video games. This is what comes of saying things like “I barely squeaked by there! Won by the hair on my chinny-chin-chin!”  **************************************** So I was at work doing dishes and my co-worker was on break. So I decided to call Haley and chat while … [Read more...]

Shame and Hospitality

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Haley had scheduled the get-together a week in advance. I knew all about it. And then we both forgot.Haley called me at 4 in the afternoon, “Do you remember that we have people coming over at 6?” My whole day came crashing down.We hadn’t cleaned the house that weekend, because no one was feeling that well. There was a mountain of laundry in the kitchen in front of the wash machine, and the sink was full of dishes. Toys were scattered throughout the house along with used tissues from all the snotty noses. I had nothing on hand to serve a guest. I wanted to cry.I snapped at the kids, I turned up the radio and buckled down to cleaning as fast as I could. I cleaned up the bathroom, mo … [Read more...]

The Habit of Peace

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Every season is nice, but each one ends up feeling about 6 weeks too long for my taste. I have always hated the month of January, long, cold, gray, lonely January.And this year February starts with more snow.I may be tired of the cold, but the snow is beautiful. What makes it swirl as it falls? It’s like a soft blanket for the soul. Watching it fall soothes the hurts, it feels like a hug.Quiet. That’s what it is. Snow falling is the definition of quiet, even if you are surrounded by chaos, lightly falling snow is a visual representation of peace.Peace. I’m still learning the meaning of the word. I used to think that peace meant that everything was perfect, something to be stri … [Read more...]


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