Jesus said, “My wife…”, then chuckled and added, “Let’s just leave it there and see what happens in a few millennia.”

Shortly after I was baptized, my pastor, who was also my spiritual director at the time, was giving the sermon. News stories had just broken about the tomb of Jesus’ family that purportedly included one for Jesus. He began the sermon with the question, Would it matter if this account is true? I was fully prepared for my relatively liberal mentor to follow that with a resounding, “NO!” so I was dumbstruck when instead he said, “Absolutely!” and went on to explain how the physical resurrection miracle was the foundation of Christianity.

Completely separate from the question of whether it is true, the insistence that it has to be true created a crack in my attachment to the relatively conservative form of Christianity I had chosen. For me, the mystical understanding of resurrection is enough. We find ourselves today is a similar situation with a scholar saying they may have found a physical artifact that suggests Jesus was married, challenging part of the accepted understanding of His life.

With two huge differences:

  1. the possibility of Jesus having been married does not diminish the assertion that he was divine (unlike the idea that he died like any other human arguably did);
  2. it does not even contradict scripture in any substantial way. Again, I’m not talking about whether it is true; just whether its possibility is an issue. Of course if he was married you’d think it would be mentioned a time or two, but nowhere does it say Jesus was celibate, or “Jesus, having chosen to take no wife…”

The being-celibate-is-more-holy anti-marriage stuff comes later, from Paul. And the absence of mention could easily be explained in the same way that many argue mentions of female apostles were expunged or altered during the compilation process from the 2nd through 4th century. Similarly, the mentions of his wife could have been cut, or perhaps changed to “beloved disciple.” (Many already believe that referred to Mary Magdalene, and assuming that’s who Jesus would be married to, if anyone, it’s an obvious leap.)

So we’re left with the question, What if? And my answer is, Fine by me. Fine either way.

If it is true, I like things that humanize Jesus more. And bonus points for shattering the insistence of the Catholic hierarchy that the reason there can’t be married or female priests is that they’re modeling Jesus’ own actions. (Even though there were female deacons in the early church (Rom 16:1) and they’re somehow not allowed now either.)

But I also don’t need it to be true and I don’t see it as an invitation to mock or poke at Christians that find it impossible to accept as even a possibility. This gloating only adds fuel to the partisan fire, and invites retribution if it ends up disproved. Or even if it doesn’t.

But this doesn’t prove anything anyway

The most interesting thing about this whole kerfuffle is that it shouldn’t be controversial at all. What has been found, even if authentic, is not a marriage certificate with Jesus’ and Mary Magdalene’s signatures. It is, rather, an account from 300+ years later that may be asserting Jesus had a wife. Scholars already know that there was debate in the second century over whether Jesus was married. Later, a group of male leaders started codifying Christian dogma and selecting which of hundreds of scriptures would be included in the official canon, leaving out or editing anything that didn’t fit the story they’d settled on. You can believe they were divinely inspired in their choices, of course. So the fact that someone in the 300s wrote an account that had Jesus married isn’t surprising, especially if he was copying an earlier Greek text. As Professor King says in her page on the finding:

From the very beginning, Christians disagreed about whether it was better to marry or to be celibate, but it was over a century after Jesus’s death before they began using Jesus’s marital status to support their different positions. Christian tradition preserved only those voices that claimed Jesus never married, but now the Gospel of Jesus’s Wife shows that some Christians claimed Jesus was married, probably already in the late second century.

(Thanks to Andrew Sullivan for the link to her page. His post has good links to read further.)

First there was the premature celebrating from those claiming this proved Jesus was married, poking a stick in the eye of church patriarchy. This is now already being followed be equally premature gloating from some saying it’s been proven a forgery — that proof being nothing more than some other scholar saying they don’t believe it. When the dust all settles, what we really have here is a fascinating puzzle piece in a much broader process. It is only those with specific agendas, and a media that fuels the fires, that has turned it into something more. What this fragment really offers, if it is authentic, is further evidence that there was a lot more diversity of belief and of practice in the early church than current dogmatists want you to believe.

And because I can’t resist, I leave you with a few possibilities. Jesus said, “My wife…”

“…, my beloved disciple…”
“…, Mary Magdalene…”
“…, the church to whom I am the bridegroom…”
“…, take her, please.”
, then chuckled and added, “Let’s just leave it there and see what happens in a few millennia.”

About Phil Fox Rose

Phil Fox Rose is a writer, editor and content lead based in New York. He is coordinator of Contemplative Outreach of New York, helping promote centering prayer, which has been his contemplative practice for nearly 20 years. Raised atheist by ex-Mormons, Phil has journeyed through Quakerism, deep ecology, Buddhism and Catholicism. Now he's a congregant, worship leader, cook and chair of the leadership team at St. Lydia's, an awesome dinner church in Brooklyn, NY, and spends as much time in nature as possible. Phil has been a political party leader, videographer, tech journalist, punk roadie, software designer, sheepherder, stockbroker and downtempo radio DJ. A common thread is the process of learning about stuff, figuring it out and then sharing that understanding with others. Follow Phil by RSS feed, email, Facebook, Twitter and Pinterest.

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  • http://tiny.cc/bostonreaders ounbbl

    The author’s bio tells us that he has been a real religion-junky ;-)
    … I sincerely he got over with.

    • Phil Fox Rose

      I really can’t tell if that’s a dis, ounbbl. It certainly sounds judgmental but then there’s a winking happy face. Well, FWIW, I would suggest that what it shows is that I was raised atheist and in a very multicultural setting, so I had to find my own way and ruled very little out. I’ve often envied people who were born into a faith and stayed, though that can have it’s own troubles.

      • ToronadoBlue

        If you ever get around to it, I would sincerely hope that you would post an article describing your journey from atheist to believer, and especially point out the things that changed you.

  • pagansister

    If Jesus was married, why would that be a problem? IMO being a Jewish man he probably would be married—because by the age of 30, the men (and women) would be considered very old—life was shorter then. Personally, I think it would be great if he was interested in women for reasons other than them being “his disciples”.