Ronald Rolheiser’s Sacred Fire: A Challenge for Deeper Spiritual Maturity

Ronald Rolheiser's Sacred Fire

Most books about the spiritual journey focus on the first steps — on awakening to an awareness that there’s more going on than your own limited perspective and tuning in to the divine in and around you. Sacred Fire assumes the reader has already made headway in these areas and looks instead at what Ronald [Read More...]

Hurricane Sandy, the relative nature of suffering, and the fragility of urban community

Looking uptown from within the downtown New York blackout caused by Hurricane Sandy.

A reflection, at the one-year anniversary of Hurricane Sandy’s landfall in New York, on experiencing the downtown Manhattan blackout, on how I did not feel the deprivation that many experienced, and about the isolation and anonymity of city life which makes urban community fragile. [Read more...]

The Welcoming Prayer

© 2013 Phil Fox Rose; Constitution Marsh, Cold Spring, NY, October 4, 2013

I want to share with you a little contemplative tool with a big impact: the Welcoming Prayer. What’s your first impulse when you have a “bad” feeling? If you’re like me, it’s usually to suppress it. But we all know that doesn’t work. What you focus on sticks around. It becomes your entire focus. Worse than before. The Welcoming Prayer bring the centering practice practice of neither reacting to thoughts nor resisting them into stressful moments during the day. [Read more...]

Starting Anew

© 2010 Phil Fox Rose Snowdrops in Central Park -- the first wildflower to appear around here each year

The vernal equinox and the Persian/Iranian New Year Nowrooz are today (March 20) and, where I live in the American Northeast, the annual cycle of natural rebirth is starting to Spring into high gear. This is the time of Easter and Passover too. Christianity offers us the opportunity to start anew — demands it of us! Whether it’s a full blown conversion, an annual renewal along with the rest of the church community at Easter, or an individual act of confession and rededication at any time, Christians have many ways to turn around (con-vert) and get back on the path at any time. My own life has been shaped by several conversions… [Read more...]

What Are You Giving Up for Lent?

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Here’s my Lenten challenge to you: Make a commitment to abstain from something you may have a compulsive relationship with starting Ash Wednesday and continuing for the duration of Lent until Easter. Not the rest of your life. Just about six weeks. You might discover you like your life better without it. [Read more...]

Can John Galliano — in recovery and contrite — be forgiven?

galliano-avedon

Is there life for high fashion’s ultimate bad boy John Galliano after his anti-Semitic remarks were caught on video a few years ago? After two years of recovery and public statements of contrition, we’ll soon see. He’ll be at New York Fashion Week next month, with the help of old friends Oscar de la Renta and Vogue editor Anna Wintour. [Read more...]

Struggling with resolutions doesn’t mean you’re failing, just human

HT: LOL Zombie.

I haven’t been doing my exercise, but does that mean I’m a bad person? Does it mean I’ve failed? No, it means I’m human. New Year’s is the biggest swearing-off ritual around. But all too often the best intentions come up against habit, craving, temptation or just fatigue, the abstainer slips, and then they feel like a failure. Sometimes the self-criticism blurs into self-hatred feeding a downward spiral that takes them to a worse place than if there had been no resolution in the first place. The missing ingredient is love… [Read more...]

6 Tips for Making It Through Christmas Family Gatherings

From the Texas Dept. of Transportation’s “Tipsy, buzzed, or Blitzen” campaign

If you are heading into an uncomfortable family situation this weekend or next week, here are 6 simple tips to help you make it through. I learned them through hard-fought experience. I hope they’re helpful. [Read more...]

Home for The Holidays When A Parent Is An Alcoholic or Addict

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Are you going home or having family over for Christmas with trepidation because it means dealing with an alcoholic parent? Are you not going home for Christmas because, after years of discomfort, you’re not willing to put up with it anymore? [Read more...]

The Gratitude List

leaf photo: ©2009 Phil Fox Rose

When you find yourself feeling particularly ungrateful about your life — or a spiritual director or friend points out that you seem that way — the gratitude list is a simple tool to help you stop and remind yourself of things for which you can be grateful. Here are a few tips to get started. [Read more...]


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