What Are You Giving Up for Lent?

Here’s my Lenten challenge to you: Make a commitment to abstain from something you may have a compulsive relationship with starting Ash Wednesday and continuing for the duration of Lent until Easter. Not the rest of your life. Just about six weeks. You might discover you like your life better without it. [Read more…]

7 Questions to Ask Yourself When You’re Late

If you tend to be late for things, the best way to change — the only way to change permanently — is to change interiorly. Here’s a tool that might help. When you are late, reflect on these 7 questions and whether any of them are true for you. [Read more…]

The Selfishness of Being Late

I talk frequently about the spirituality of being on time, and a lot of the feedback I get is about how eye-opening it is to realize you are bothering others. So let me focus a little more sharply on that aspect of the subject, on selfishness… [Read more…]

Struggling with resolutions doesn’t mean you’re failing, just human

I haven’t been doing my exercise, but does that mean I’m a bad person? Does it mean I’ve failed? No, it means I’m human. New Year’s is the biggest swearing-off ritual around. But all too often the best intentions come up against habit, craving, temptation or just fatigue, the abstainer slips, and then they feel like a failure. Sometimes the self-criticism blurs into self-hatred feeding a downward spiral that takes them to a worse place than if there had been no resolution in the first place. The missing ingredient is love… [Read more…]

6 Tips for Making It Through Christmas Family Gatherings

If you are heading into an uncomfortable family situation this week, here are 6 simple tips to help you make it through. I learned them through hard-fought experience. I hope they’re helpful. [Read more…]

Home for The Holidays When A Parent Is An Alcoholic or Addict

Are you going home or having family over for Christmas with trepidation because it means dealing with an alcoholic parent? Are you not going home for Christmas because, after years of discomfort, you’re not willing to put up with it anymore? [Read more…]

Waiting Patiently

In this Advent season of waiting, here are some thoughts and tips about how we react when we’re on time and and someone or something else is late. [Read more…]

6 Tips for Being On Time

I’ve been chronically late my whole life. Here are 6 powerful tips that I’ve found very useful for changing my lifelong pattern. I hope they’re helpful to you too. [Read more…]

Being On Time

Being on time is not just about time management. If you’re a chronically late person, it can carry behind it a lot of other issues. I fall short most days, but while my actions may not be perfect, I no longer think it’s OK to be late. Do you struggle with being on time? [Read more…]

The Gratitude List

When you find yourself feeling particularly ungrateful about your life — or a spiritual director or friend points out that you seem that way — the gratitude list is a simple tool to help you stop and remind yourself of things for which you can be grateful. Here are a few tips to get started. [Read more…]