Little Things I Love: Yard Work and Blue Jeans

I love doing yard work. Well, not so much yard work as forest-work. I’ve been clearing out the woods behind my house for several weeks now, and am seeing some promising results. I’m so excited to have a little space to myself by the stream. Clearing out a forest is hard work, especially since this one [Read More...]

Essential Reads

Melissa at Permission to Live has just completed a phenomenal series about her journey with her partner out of the neat boxes of fundamentalist gender roles. (This is all I can say while avoiding spoilers!) Read it yourself here: Unwrapping the Onion: Introduction The story was also picked up and summarized on Jezebel. Libby Anne [Read More...]

Colbert Report: Gateway Hug

This video was too good not to share for anybody with experience in Christian purity culture. My church actually did ban hand-holding and hugs between the sexes, and was suspicious of too much eye contact! The Colbert Report (The Word): Gateway Hug Kissing and hugging are the last stop before reaching Groin Central Station, so it [Read More...]

Bedroom Submission, Birth Control and Tokophobia

Like most fundamentalist churches, mine taught that wives were commanded by God to give their husbands all the sex they wanted. Technically, husbands had to do the same for wives, but it would have been a strange, transgressive woman who wanted more sex than her husband. (Jonalyn Fincher of Her.meneutics and I disagree.) The rationale behind [Read More...]

Emotional Incest: The Bottom Line

My last two posts, and indeed all my thinking on the subject has led me to some conclusions about the ways that Christian Patriarchy and purity culture enable and even celebrate emotional incest. The following are the cliff notes: Christian patriarchy turns marriage from a relationship to an institution, effectively reversing the historical trend from [Read More...]

Emotional Incest: The Mama’s Boy and the Other Woman

I have already written about the ways that growing up in fundamentalist-evangelical culture made me especially vulnerable to covert incest from my father. There is a flip side to the father-daughter craze in Christian patriarchy, though. I am here to bring you two stories: and one of them isn’t about me! In what would have [Read More...]

Emotional Incest: The Junior Wife

Libby Anne has begun a series on Emotional Incest at Love, Joy, Feminism. In her latest post, she also links Hugo Schwyzer’s striking analysis of the problems with the “Daddy’s Girl” myth and princess culture. The following is my attempt to confirm and add more perspectives to the issue they are bringing to light. As [Read More...]