The Fistfight Fallacy: rape culture’s ahistorical premise

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Trigger warning: I’m fighting back against a rape apologist’s claim, and some of this material may be triggering. Inevitably, when you write about patriarchy, you get “schooled” by some asshat who informs you that society itself is founded on the threat of rape. That men are bigger and stronger and have always been able to [Read More...]

You can’t stop the reign of guns and patriarchy without talking about religion

A gun, a Bible, and the Declaration of Independence: a poisonous American cocktail.

Americans have come to expect certain conversations after public shooting incidents. It’s a stain on our national discourse that we have such a thing as a “generic” response to mass murder, but we all know what it is. Gun control and mental health are both invoked and then made to duel it out in the [Read More...]

Adventures in Egalitarian Marriage: On the Rocks, Please

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Ever since I was a little girl, I’ve found engagement rings totally perplexing. The part about them being symbols of love and commitment made sense. I got the commercial appeal, too – after all, I was a child of the nineties. I had enough merchandise from every TV or book series I liked to learn [Read More...]

Guns an equalizer?

Not me.

A question occurred to me as I proofread my last post about how my father’s violence and gun ownership gave him unnatural power in the household: Why didn’t guns make me feel safer? After all, I was a pretty good shot. I knew how to load, unload and clean the guns properly. I knew where they [Read More...]

Columbine, martyrs, and growing up NRA at the end of the world

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This morning, a deranged attacker opened fire in a Connecticut school, killing tens of children and adults. Little else is known right now about this particular shooting, although it’s another episode of a drama Americans know well. The Aurora shooting happened just this year, along with three other shootings in schools. VA Tech suffered a major shooting [Read More...]

Sexuality Project: Sex Education and the Body, Q. 2

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The following is an installment of the Religious Fundamentalism and Sexuality Project. Read the previous installment here. You are also invited to join the project. Sex Education and the Body Q. 2: How did your parents and/or church respond to your questions (if any)? How did they (and you) understand and react to puberty? Calulu My parents [Read More...]

Further thoughts on disability and abortion, by request

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I’ve been asked to consider this topic again, as Meghan has decided to make it the launching point for a blog series of her own and emailed me her first response. I initially wrote about it in a response to a Christianity Today article demonizing women for choosing abortion based on disability. The point of my [Read More...]

Adventures in Egalitarian Marriage, Part One: Mrs. Who?

Husband and wife sit on the floor, dreaming of the day they can afford a couch.

“Is your husband home?” I wasn’t prepared to answer that question. If my neighbors’ wide, gently sloping rooftops with huge antennae sprouting out like pine branches hadn’t been enough to make me feel like I was living in the 1950s, that question totally did it. I had just been asked by a door-to-door salesman if [Read More...]

Evangelical Christian Marriage: Hawking the Product

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In evangelical Christian culture, marriage is a commodity. Marriage books are sold like gardening manuals or cheat sheets for the SATs. The sales pitch for marriage in Christian culture is more intense than any you’ll ever experience on a used car lot. Christians are made to believe that they’re God’s designated curators of Marriage, That [Read More...]

Love is what “we” do; sex is what “they” do

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Justin Lee, executive director of the Gay Christian Network, has just written an excellent post using The Lion King to illustrate the unequal terms in which evangelical Christians (in this case, his 16-year-old self) think about sex and relationships. Check it out here: Crumbs from the Communion Table: Can you feel the sex tonight? In [Read More...]


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