Sexism, Judgment Day and Forgetting as a Survival Skill

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Sometimes, my mind goes through a litany of abuse that I can’t stop. From my father’s intimidation to the men in trucks who ran me off the road making obscene gestures to the men who followed me through city streets swearing at me for ignoring their sexual advances. From my pastor screaming about uppity women [Read More...]

Daughter of the Patriarchy, epilogue: What does leaving fundamentalism look like?

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Occasionally, I get asked whether or not I ever actually left my old fundamentalist church. My story on No Longer Quivering followed my journey up to the first year of college. I’ve wrestled with how to explain what happened in a proper narrative form, because the circumstances that led to my cutting ties completely with [Read More...]

We thought modesty made us timeless

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I grew up wearing “holiness.” I’ll wait for a moment so you can finish making jokes. You know you want to. Usually associated with Pentecostals, “holiness” dress has several elements: Long skirts and dresses, usually floor length No close-fitting or “stretch” clothing unless it’s oversized Uncut hair (no trimming allowed in my church) No makeup Minimal [Read More...]

You can’t stop the reign of guns and patriarchy without talking about religion

A gun, a Bible, and the Declaration of Independence: a poisonous American cocktail.

Americans have come to expect certain conversations after public shooting incidents. It’s a stain on our national discourse that we have such a thing as a “generic” response to mass murder, but we all know what it is. Gun control and mental health are both invoked and then made to duel it out in the [Read More...]

Guns an equalizer?

Not me.

A question occurred to me as I proofread my last post about how my father’s violence and gun ownership gave him unnatural power in the household: Why didn’t guns make me feel safer? After all, I was a pretty good shot. I knew how to load, unload and clean the guns properly. I knew where they [Read More...]

Columbine, martyrs, and growing up NRA at the end of the world

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This morning, a deranged attacker opened fire in a Connecticut school, killing tens of children and adults. Little else is known right now about this particular shooting, although it’s another episode of a drama Americans know well. The Aurora shooting happened just this year, along with three other shootings in schools. VA Tech suffered a major shooting [Read More...]

Can you TELL? or, Lies I Believed About Women’s Reproduction

Contrary to the popular Shakira song, hips totally do lie.

Ever since Todd Akin’s remarks about women’s bodies’ magical powers to repel the sperm of rapists sent echoes of shock reverberating through the mainstream media, pieces of similar doctrines have bubbled back up into my memory. Akin’s views did not surprise me, as they did not surprise other bloggers who study the Religious Right. Instead, [Read More...]

Chick-fil-A’s “Appreciation Day”, or, Spite is Not a Christian Virtue

Chik-fil-A supporters line up to gorge themselves patriotically. Via LA Times.

This morning, one of the first things I saw on my facebook feed was an explosion of pictures of Chick-fil-A buildings around the country mobbed by evangelical Christians. The lines wrapped around the buildings, out into the parking lot. Fat, shiny SUVs sat cooling off and reminding everybody that their owners were people of means. [Read More...]

Sexuality Project: Questioning, Qs. 4 and 5

This is an installment of the Religious Fundamentalism and Sexuality Project. You can read the full list of questions here and the posting plan here. The first six participants whose stories I’ll be posting are Melissa and Haley, Lina and V, Latebloomer and Katy-Anne. Questioning 4. (If you are gay, lesbian, bisexual or transgender) Have you “come out” to your [Read More...]

Sexuality Project: Questioning, Q. 3

This is an installment of the Religious Fundamentalism and Sexuality Project. You can read the full list of questions here and the posting plan here. The first six participants whose stories I’ll be posting are Melissa and Haley, Lina and V, Latebloomer and Katy-Anne. Questioning 3. What media (if any) did you read or watch that made you rethink your [Read More...]


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