The Fistfight Fallacy: rape culture’s ahistorical premise

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Trigger warning: I’m fighting back against a rape apologist’s claim, and some of this material may be triggering. Inevitably, when you write about patriarchy, you get “schooled” by some asshat who informs you that society itself is founded on the threat of rape. That men are bigger and stronger and have always been able to [Read More...]

Sexism, Judgment Day and Forgetting as a Survival Skill

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Sometimes, my mind goes through a litany of abuse that I can’t stop. From my father’s intimidation to the men in trucks who ran me off the road making obscene gestures to the men who followed me through city streets swearing at me for ignoring their sexual advances. From my pastor screaming about uppity women [Read More...]

A Sober Second Look writes about Islamophobia

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I want to recommend this recent post on A Sober Second Look: A Sober Second Look: On othering and “feeling sick” Posters and commenters in particular in some of these [fundamentalist survivor] blogs (and others like them) sometimes use a sort of short-hand that expresses that certain ideas, practices and institutions are oppressive: a fundamentalist, [Read More...]

Daughter of the Patriarchy, epilogue: What does leaving fundamentalism look like?

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Occasionally, I get asked whether or not I ever actually left my old fundamentalist church. My story on No Longer Quivering followed my journey up to the first year of college. I’ve wrestled with how to explain what happened in a proper narrative form, because the circumstances that led to my cutting ties completely with [Read More...]

Activism fatigue and the work of changing minds

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I have been teaching as part of my graduate school career for more than a year now. It’s intense work. Some find it invigorating and exciting; I find it grueling. Teaching engages the same part of my brain that writing about the Religious Right does; it forces me to listen carefully to ideas I find [Read More...]

What my feminism is, and why I’m not okay with “mansplaining”

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I grew up on anti-feminist propaganda. I heard that they were ball-busting man-haters before I had any idea what that meant, much less thought about identifying as one of them. There’s nothing remotely original about my journey from patriarchal indoctrination (having male friends because I thought girls were “boring”) to ambivalence (“I’m not a feminist, [Read More...]

Prospect.org: Purity Culture is Rape Culture

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Trigger warning: The linked article contains a graphic description of gang rape. In fact, the warning applies to all of the links in this post. E.J. Graff at The American Prospect writes, in Purity Culture is Rape Culture: Too many people still conceive of rape as a man’s overwhelming urge to enjoy the body of a [Read More...]

Are you part of the pants, pants revolution?

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2012-13 is the Winter of the Pants. Will you join the party? On December 16, 2012, Mormon feminists declared Wear Pants to Church Day, inviting participants to, well, wear pants to church, ‘in solidarity with those of us who seek gender equality everywhere, including the LDS church. And when somebody asks you why you are dressed [Read More...]

Christianity and Christian Patriarchy are not the same thing.

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A moment of clarification: If you read my previous post and thought I was issuing a call to arms against the Christian religion, please be aware of this distinction. The Christian Patriarchy movement is a subculture that developed in the 1980s as part of the Moral Majority conservative movement, and now espouses a number of [Read More...]

You can’t stop the reign of guns and patriarchy without talking about religion

A gun, a Bible, and the Declaration of Independence: a poisonous American cocktail.

Americans have come to expect certain conversations after public shooting incidents. It’s a stain on our national discourse that we have such a thing as a “generic” response to mass murder, but we all know what it is. Gun control and mental health are both invoked and then made to duel it out in the [Read More...]