Wifely Submission and Honoring, Cherishing and Loving Your Wife as Your Own Body

Leaders of the Christian Patriarchy Movement and their disciples (minor pastors who covet their attention) will say a lot of things to sugarcoat wifely submission. Complementarians say that true contentment comes from submitting to your God-given role as an obedient helper to your husband. That women who feel unfulfilled need only to submit to their [Read More...]

Sexuality Project: Romantic Relationships, Q. 1

This is an installment of the Religious Fundamentalism and Sexuality Project. You can read the full list of questions here and the posting plan here. The first six participants whose stories I’ll be posting are Melissa and Haley, Lina and V, Latebloomer and Katy-Anne. Romantic Relationships 1. What were you taught to expect in a romantic relationship and/or marriage? How [Read More...]

Sexuality Project: Peer Group, Q. 4

This is an installment of the Religious Fundamentalism and Sexuality Project. You can read the full list of questions here and the posting plan here. The first six participants whose stories I’ll be posting are Melissa and Haley, Lina and V, Latebloomer and Katy-Anne. Peer Group 4. Did you experience peer pressure regarding sexuality and/or purity? How did you respond [Read More...]

Sexuality Project: Peer Group, Q. 3

This is an installment of the Religious Fundamentalism and Sexuality Project. You can read the full list of questions here and the posting plan here. The first six participants whose stories I’ll be posting are Melissa and Haley, Lina and V, Latebloomer and Katy-Anne. Peer Group 3. What did you believe about non-fundamentalists and their attitudes towards sex? Where did [Read More...]

Review: Pixar’s Brave is Braver Than it Looks

Pixar’s Brave is every fairy tale and none of them. It’s every trope and none of them. It’s filled with lovable scamps, bumbling eccentrics, defiant courage, enchanted landscapes, stifling expectations and unintended consequences. And it’s filled with beautiful brogue and wayward redheads. I’m going to talk my way through this movie. It’s currently 10:30pm. I left the [Read More...]

The Incredible Helplessness of Men: Lust Edition

I just accidentally ran across this piece of weird voyeurism on the internet. (How I got there? I can’t even remember.) The body that drove John Edwards mad: Rielle Hunter struts in her swimsuit Now, before you tell me that the Daily Mail is a piece of trash: The Daily Mail is a piece of [Read More...]

Sexuality and Spanking in Religious Fundamentalism: Two Projects to Join!

Sarah at Who I Am Without You is starting a project on the harmful effects of spanking. In her own words: I want to compile a collection of stories from victims of spanking. I want young parents to be able to see the issue from words that could someday belong to their child. People who [Read More...]

Survival Songs: Of Verona, The Enemy

The following song was an incredible help to me during the worst of my conflict with my mother after leaving fundamentalism. I think it’s especially pertinent for adult children of fundamentalists, as we were raised with such stark distinctions between believers (our brothers and sisters) and the enemy (“the world”). Most of us have also [Read More...]

Modesty, Body Policing, and Empowerment: The Hijab (Part One)

The Guardian recently published an article by Nadiya Takolia titled “The hijab has liberated me from society’s expectations of women.” It’s far from the first of its kind; indeed, the Muslim feminist blogosphere is really sick of talking about whether or not the hijab is inherently oppressive. Yessenia at Queereka has already articulated many of the [Read More...]

Christian Fundamentalist Homophobia, Part Three: Finding Unconditional Love Outside the Church

Trigger warning: The following post contains frank descriptions of the hate speech against LGBTQ people that my church used to inculcate fear and contempt in its youth. I have decided to write about homophobia for two reasons: first, to demonstrate the falsity of fundamentalist rhetoric about “hating the sin and loving the sinner,” and, second, [Read More...]


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