Review: Pixar’s Brave is Braver Than it Looks

Pixar’s Brave is every fairy tale and none of them. It’s every trope and none of them. It’s filled with lovable scamps, bumbling eccentrics, defiant courage, enchanted landscapes, stifling expectations and unintended consequences. And it’s filled with beautiful brogue and wayward redheads. I’m going to talk my way through this movie. It’s currently 10:30pm. I left the [Read More...]

Azizatu Nafsiha: Suffering Doesn’t Make You Special, It Just Makes You Miserable

Saliha has written another great post that resonates with me as a former Christian fundamentalist. Suffering Doesn’t Make You Special, It Just Makes You Miserable One of the ways those who benefit from religious oppression are able to nurture and sustain oppressive social structures (like male supremacy/patriarchy) is by convincing the oppressed that their suffering is both [Read More...]

“Hate the Sin, Love the Sinner” – a Christian Myth in Perspective

I recently wrote my Christian Fundamentalist Homophobia series to point out how I and other fundamentalist children were taught to feel contempt and disgust for people who didn’t live up to our artificial standards. We were taught to separate people from their self-expression, as though they were somehow trapped in an impregnable cocoon and all [Read More...]

Sexuality and Spanking in Religious Fundamentalism: Two Projects to Join!

Sarah at Who I Am Without You is starting a project on the harmful effects of spanking. In her own words: I want to compile a collection of stories from victims of spanking. I want young parents to be able to see the issue from words that could someday belong to their child. People who [Read More...]

Survival Songs: Of Verona, The Enemy

The following song was an incredible help to me during the worst of my conflict with my mother after leaving fundamentalism. I think it’s especially pertinent for adult children of fundamentalists, as we were raised with such stark distinctions between believers (our brothers and sisters) and the enemy (“the world”). Most of us have also [Read More...]

Survival Songs: Mandi Perkins, Who I Am

Note: This is part of an ongoing series on songs that helped me break away from fundamentalism. An excerpt of the lyrics I found most meaningful is below the jump. [Read more...]

Christian Fundamentalist Homophobia, Part Three: Finding Unconditional Love Outside the Church

Trigger warning: The following post contains frank descriptions of the hate speech against LGBTQ people that my church used to inculcate fear and contempt in its youth. I have decided to write about homophobia for two reasons: first, to demonstrate the falsity of fundamentalist rhetoric about “hating the sin and loving the sinner,” and, second, [Read More...]

Survival Songs: U2, Walk On

When I got to college, the very first “worldly music” album I purchased was U2, All That You Can’t Leave Behind. I’d never heard of U2 before, although I soon realized that I’d heard many of their songs on the radio. I finally learned their name in a professor’s car on the way to an Indian [Read More...]

Christian Patriarchy and Complementarianism: “Separate But Equal” Puts on Lipstick

Complementarianism is a lie. Yeah. It’s fake. It doesn’t exist. What does exist is patriarchy in drag. Patriarchy slips into a pretty little number and tells you it’s helping you fulfill your God-given potential. It twirls around and smiles at you, showing you how beautiful you can be if you’ll only stop fighting and being so angry and just accept [Read More...]

New Spiritual Abuse Survivor Network at No Longer Quivering

Over the past year, survivors of spiritual abuse have been slowly connecting with one another, seeking out new bloggers, linking and cross-posting one another’s work. This collaboration has been inspiring to watch, as it’s happened organically and led to the creation of such community projects as Raised Quiverfull, the Fundamentalism and Sexuality project, and another series that’s currently [Read More...]


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