Daughter of the Patriarchy, epilogue: What does leaving fundamentalism look like?

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Occasionally, I get asked whether or not I ever actually left my old fundamentalist church. My story on No Longer Quivering followed my journey up to the first year of college. I’ve wrestled with how to explain what happened in a proper narrative form, because the circumstances that led to my cutting ties completely with [Read More...]

Sexuality Project: Sex Education and the Body, Q. 2

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The following is an installment of the Religious Fundamentalism and Sexuality Project. Read the previous installment here. You are also invited to join the project. Sex Education and the Body Q. 2: How did your parents and/or church respond to your questions (if any)? How did they (and you) understand and react to puberty? Calulu My parents [Read More...]

Emotional Control: Mandatory Happiness Makes Me Sad

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I recently joined Pinterest. I resisted for a little while, like I always do, but eventually decided that it would be a convenient way to store ideas for home decorating (I just moved house) and wedding planning (for next fall). The result was my sudden immersion into Pinterest “culture.” You see, there are a lot [Read More...]

A Fundamentalist Christian Paradox? “Love is an Action, Not a Feeling” vs. “Hate the Sin, Love the Sinner”

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A comment on Libby Anne’s blog recently got me thinking about love, and what it means to fundamentalist Christians. The comment went like this: You’re forgetting that love has nothing to do with our actions, it’s a feeling that can be arbitrarily asserted to make anything okay. The problem is, that’s the opposite of what [Read More...]

Doug Wilson Continues Attention-Seeking Rants Against Rachel Held Evans, Feminists

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I blame Libby Anne for sharing this link and making me write despite my sore wrist! Doug Wilson just can’t shut up about Rachel Held Evans, which is curious for two reasons: she’s already stopped bothering about him, and there are scores of other bloggers who are pissed off about his misogyny, and several of them [Read More...]

Misogynist Pastor Doug Wilson Continues Gaslighting His Critics

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Gaslighting is a term derived from the 1944 film Gaslight. Here’s an excerpt from the plot: Paula loses a brooch that Gregory had given her, despite its having been stored safely in her handbag. A picture disappears from the walls of the house, and Gregory says that Paula took it, but Paula has no recollection of having [Read More...]

Daughter of the Patriarchy Series: Stuart of the Lovely Locks

This is an installment of the Daughter of the Patriarchy series. Read the rest here. A couple of days after moving onto campus, Molly informed me that she was expecting a visitor. He was a friend from her Dungeons and Dragons group, coming by to pick up one of his books from their last game. Molly [Read More...]

Daughter of the Patriarchy Series: Safe Now

This is an installment of the Daughter of the Patriarchy series that I have been slowly putting together over the past couple of years. Read the rest of it on No Longer Quivering. A month after my acceptance, I was moving onto campus for my first autumn semester at Rowling College.* Most of my community [Read More...]

Wifely Submission and Honoring, Cherishing and Loving Your Wife as Your Own Body

Leaders of the Christian Patriarchy Movement and their disciples (minor pastors who covet their attention) will say a lot of things to sugarcoat wifely submission. Complementarians say that true contentment comes from submitting to your God-given role as an obedient helper to your husband. That women who feel unfulfilled need only to submit to their [Read More...]

Sexuality Project: Peer Group, Q. 4

This is an installment of the Religious Fundamentalism and Sexuality Project. You can read the full list of questions here and the posting plan here. The first six participants whose stories I’ll be posting are Melissa and Haley, Lina and V, Latebloomer and Katy-Anne. Peer Group 4. Did you experience peer pressure regarding sexuality and/or purity? How did you respond [Read More...]


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