Christian Patriarchy and Complementarianism: “Separate But Equal” Puts on Lipstick

Complementarianism is a lie. Yeah. It’s fake. It doesn’t exist. What does exist is patriarchy in drag. Patriarchy slips into a pretty little number and tells you it’s helping you fulfill your God-given potential. It twirls around and smiles at you, showing you how beautiful you can be if you’ll only stop fighting and being so angry and just accept [Read More...]

Christian Fundamentalist Homophobia, Part Two: The Argument is in the Eyebrows

Trigger warning: The following post contains frank descriptions of the hate speech against LGBTQ people that my church used to inculcate fear and contempt in its youth. It’s probably not something you want to read if you’re already having a bad day. I have decided to write about homophobia for two reasons: first, to demonstrate [Read More...]

Feminist Mormon Housewives: A gender identity story

Those who read Melissa’s story at Permission to Live will probably be interested in this story, too: Feminist Mormon Housewives: A Look Inside Your Neighbor’s Window: Surprises in Marriage This Mormon couple, like Melissa and her partner, married young after being steeped in a strict Christian purity culture during their childhoods and adolescence. Some time after marriage, [Read More...]

Modesty, Body Policing and Rape Culture: Connecting the Dots

Definition: The “modesty doctrine” is the belief that women need to cover their bodies to prevent men from being attracted to them, because sexual attraction is lust that leads to sin and death for both.  The modesty doctrine is not the same as wearing conservative clothing. You can do the latter without believing the former. The modesty [Read More...]

Christian Fundamentalist Homophobia, Part One: Generalized Anxiety and Images of Depravity

Trigger warning: The following post contains frank descriptions of the hate speech against LGBTQ people that my church used to inculcate fear and contempt in its youth. It’s probably not something you want to read if you’re already having a bad day. I have decided to write about homophobia for two reasons: first, to demonstrate [Read More...]

Christian Fundamentalist Homophobia: It Really Is About Fear (Introducing a New Series)

Trigger warning: The following post contains frank descriptions of the hate speech against LGBTQ people that my church used to inculcate fear and contempt in its youth. It’s probably not something you want to read if you’re already having a bad day.  I have decided to write about homophobia for two reasons: first, to demonstrate [Read More...]

The Last Name Project

From Two to One and The Feminist Mystique are co-hosting a series called The Last Name Project, “profiling an array of individuals and couples about their last name decisions upon marriage or what they expect to choose if they marry.” A little while ago, Libby Anne of Love, Joy, Feminism did a guest post for [Read More...]

Libby Anne: Christian Patriarchy and Bodily Ownership

(Note: This is cross-posted from Love, Joy, Feminism. The original is here.) By Libby Anne My mother taught my sisters and I that our bodies belonged to our father. She told us that if we wanted to alter our bodies by a piercing or tattoo, that had to go through him – even if we [Read More...]

Bedroom Submission, Birth Control and Tokophobia

Like most fundamentalist churches, mine taught that wives were commanded by God to give their husbands all the sex they wanted. Technically, husbands had to do the same for wives, but it would have been a strange, transgressive woman who wanted more sex than her husband. (Jonalyn Fincher of Her.meneutics and I disagree.) The rationale behind [Read More...]

Emotional Incest: The Bottom Line

My last two posts, and indeed all my thinking on the subject has led me to some conclusions about the ways that Christian Patriarchy and purity culture enable and even celebrate emotional incest. The following are the cliff notes: Christian patriarchy turns marriage from a relationship to an institution, effectively reversing the historical trend from [Read More...]


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