What my feminism is, and why I’m not okay with “mansplaining”

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I grew up on anti-feminist propaganda. I heard that they were ball-busting man-haters before I had any idea what that meant, much less thought about identifying as one of them. There’s nothing remotely original about my journey from patriarchal indoctrination (having male friends because I thought girls were “boring”) to ambivalence (“I’m not a feminist, [Read More...]

What’s the point of you? The absurdity of defining people by their reproductive organs.

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“You’ll save him. You always do,” says Amelia Pond to the Doctor. “Not always,” he replied, barely able to look at her as she hovers over the pile of ash that used to be her husband. “Then what,” she responds icily, “is the point of you?” It’s one of the most painful lines in the [Read More...]

Adventures in Egalitarian Marriage, Part One: Mrs. Who?

Husband and wife sit on the floor, dreaming of the day they can afford a couch.

“Is your husband home?” I wasn’t prepared to answer that question. If my neighbors’ wide, gently sloping rooftops with huge antennae sprouting out like pine branches hadn’t been enough to make me feel like I was living in the 1950s, that question totally did it. I had just been asked by a door-to-door salesman if [Read More...]

Evangelical Christian Marriage: Hawking the Product

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In evangelical Christian culture, marriage is a commodity. Marriage books are sold like gardening manuals or cheat sheets for the SATs. The sales pitch for marriage in Christian culture is more intense than any you’ll ever experience on a used car lot. Christians are made to believe that they’re God’s designated curators of Marriage, That [Read More...]

Ann Romney’s Gendered Martyrdom: “Women and Children First”?

Shove over, Rose, you murderous narcissist.

Credit isn’t all it’s cracked up to be. I’m not talking about your credit score or the plastic in your wallet. I’m talking about public accolades. I’m talking about the river of molten gold that comes out of the mouths of people like Ann Romney when describing (what used to be) “women’s work.” Before I [Read More...]

Wifely Submission and Honoring, Cherishing and Loving Your Wife as Your Own Body

Leaders of the Christian Patriarchy Movement and their disciples (minor pastors who covet their attention) will say a lot of things to sugarcoat wifely submission. Complementarians say that true contentment comes from submitting to your God-given role as an obedient helper to your husband. That women who feel unfulfilled need only to submit to their [Read More...]

The Incredible Helplessness of Men: Lust Edition, Epilogue

Following up my last post about the John Edwards and Rielle Hunter affair, have a look at some of the comments on the article I cited. (Under the jump.) [Read more...]

The Incredible Helplessness of Men: Lust Edition

I just accidentally ran across this piece of weird voyeurism on the internet. (How I got there? I can’t even remember.) The body that drove John Edwards mad: Rielle Hunter struts in her swimsuit Now, before you tell me that the Daily Mail is a piece of trash: The Daily Mail is a piece of [Read More...]

Fast Cars and Misogyny: How Girls are Prevented from Learning “Masculine” Skills

I recently read Teach Your Children to Succeed by Putting Obstacles in Their Way by Eric Sentell on Role Reboot. The heart of Sentell’s essay is his story about a day from his youth that he looks back on as a “source of pride, self-reliance, and independence.” He was sixteen years old and in need of [Read More...]

Rachel Held Evans: Is Patriarchy Really God’s Dream for the World?

Rachel Held Evans has just followed up the discussion linked in my last post with the literary equivalent of an avalanche. She not only affirms her commitment to Christian egalitarianism, but she backs it up with a torrent of evidence demonstrating the very real harm done by patriarchy in the Bible and in the world. An excerpt: [Read More...]


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