The Incredible Helplessness of Men: Lust Edition

I just accidentally ran across this piece of weird voyeurism on the internet. (How I got there? I can’t even remember.) The body that drove John Edwards mad: Rielle Hunter struts in her swimsuit Now, before you tell me that the Daily Mail is a piece of trash: The Daily Mail is a piece of [Read More...]

Azizatu Nafsiha: Suffering Doesn’t Make You Special, It Just Makes You Miserable

Saliha has written another great post that resonates with me as a former Christian fundamentalist. Suffering Doesn’t Make You Special, It Just Makes You Miserable One of the ways those who benefit from religious oppression are able to nurture and sustain oppressive social structures (like male supremacy/patriarchy) is by convincing the oppressed that their suffering is both [Read More...]

Modesty, Body Policing, and Empowerment: The Hijab (Part One)

The Guardian recently published an article by Nadiya Takolia titled “The hijab has liberated me from society’s expectations of women.” It’s far from the first of its kind; indeed, the Muslim feminist blogosphere is really sick of talking about whether or not the hijab is inherently oppressive. Yessenia at Queereka has already articulated many of the [Read More...]

Rachel Held Evans: Is Patriarchy Really God’s Dream for the World?

Rachel Held Evans has just followed up the discussion linked in my last post with the literary equivalent of an avalanche. She not only affirms her commitment to Christian egalitarianism, but she backs it up with a torrent of evidence demonstrating the very real harm done by patriarchy in the Bible and in the world. An excerpt: [Read More...]

Christian Patriarchy and Complementarianism: “Separate But Equal” Puts on Lipstick

Complementarianism is a lie. Yeah. It’s fake. It doesn’t exist. What does exist is patriarchy in drag. Patriarchy slips into a pretty little number and tells you it’s helping you fulfill your God-given potential. It twirls around and smiles at you, showing you how beautiful you can be if you’ll only stop fighting and being so angry and just accept [Read More...]

Azizatu Nafsiha: Coming Into My Own

Saliha at Azizatu Nafsiha has begun to write a beautiful, thoughtful series about wrestling with faith and gender expectations as an African American Shi’a Muslim woman. It’s called “Coming Into My Own,” a theme to which most of my readers will relate. Her writing is lucid, elegant and transparent in its depth. I highly recommend following this [Read More...]

New Spiritual Abuse Survivor Network at No Longer Quivering

Over the past year, survivors of spiritual abuse have been slowly connecting with one another, seeking out new bloggers, linking and cross-posting one another’s work. This collaboration has been inspiring to watch, as it’s happened organically and led to the creation of such community projects as Raised Quiverfull, the Fundamentalism and Sexuality project, and another series that’s currently [Read More...]

Modesty and False Empowerment

Wearing the hijab or dressing modestly (no low necklines and leaving miniskirts to models) can, for some women, act as a way of empowering them, and I’ve seen its benefits first hand. When I wear a top that goes up to my neckline, as I do when I’m around Usama’s family (or to be honest [Read More...]

Modesty, Body Policing and Rape Culture: Connecting the Dots

Definition: The “modesty doctrine” is the belief that women need to cover their bodies to prevent men from being attracted to them, because sexual attraction is lust that leads to sin and death for both.  The modesty doctrine is not the same as wearing conservative clothing. You can do the latter without believing the former. The modesty [Read More...]

Libby Anne: Raised Quiverfull Project

If you haven’t checked out Libby Anne’s “Raised Quiverfull” project yet, you’re missing out! Raised Quiverfull: Adult Children Respond The project is ongoing. The Introduction, along with the sections on Living the Life, A Gendered Childhood, and Homeschooling are complete. Keep checking in for the sections on Purity, Questioning, Relating to Family, Coping and Helping [Read More...]