Sexuality Project: Romantic Relationships, Q. 1

This is an installment of the Religious Fundamentalism and Sexuality Project. You can read the full list of questions here and the posting plan here. The first six participants whose stories I’ll be posting are Melissa and Haley, Lina and V, Latebloomer and Katy-Anne. Romantic Relationships 1. What were you taught to expect in a romantic relationship and/or marriage? How [Read More...]

Christian Fundamentalist Homophobia, Part Three: Finding Unconditional Love Outside the Church

Trigger warning: The following post contains frank descriptions of the hate speech against LGBTQ people that my church used to inculcate fear and contempt in its youth. I have decided to write about homophobia for two reasons: first, to demonstrate the falsity of fundamentalist rhetoric about “hating the sin and loving the sinner,” and, second, [Read More...]

Rachel Held Evans: Is Patriarchy Really God’s Dream for the World?

Rachel Held Evans has just followed up the discussion linked in my last post with the literary equivalent of an avalanche. She not only affirms her commitment to Christian egalitarianism, but she backs it up with a torrent of evidence demonstrating the very real harm done by patriarchy in the Bible and in the world. An excerpt: [Read More...]

Christian Patriarchy and Complementarianism: “Separate But Equal” Puts on Lipstick

Complementarianism is a lie. Yeah. It’s fake. It doesn’t exist. What does exist is patriarchy in drag. Patriarchy slips into a pretty little number and tells you it’s helping you fulfill your God-given potential. It twirls around and smiles at you, showing you how beautiful you can be if you’ll only stop fighting and being so angry and just accept [Read More...]

New Spiritual Abuse Survivor Network at No Longer Quivering

Over the past year, survivors of spiritual abuse have been slowly connecting with one another, seeking out new bloggers, linking and cross-posting one another’s work. This collaboration has been inspiring to watch, as it’s happened organically and led to the creation of such community projects as Raised Quiverfull, the Fundamentalism and Sexuality project, and another series that’s currently [Read More...]

Quick Hits: Modesty, LGBTQ, and “Honoring” Women

A North Carolina pastor’s anti-gay tirade has gone viral on youtube. He proposes sending all non-heterosexuals to concentration camps, where they will die off because “they can’t reproduce!!1eleven11!!1″ In other words, he’s the guy Jonathan Swift could only pretend to be. NC Pastor Gives Sermon on Killing Off Homosexuals Members Stand Behind Pastor’s Anti-Gay Sermon [Read More...]

Libby Anne: Christian Patriarchy and Bodily Ownership

(Note: This is cross-posted from Love, Joy, Feminism. The original is here.) By Libby Anne My mother taught my sisters and I that our bodies belonged to our father. She told us that if we wanted to alter our bodies by a piercing or tattoo, that had to go through him – even if we [Read More...]

Bedroom Submission, Birth Control and Tokophobia

Like most fundamentalist churches, mine taught that wives were commanded by God to give their husbands all the sex they wanted. Technically, husbands had to do the same for wives, but it would have been a strange, transgressive woman who wanted more sex than her husband. (Jonalyn Fincher of Her.meneutics and I disagree.) The rationale behind [Read More...]

Emotional Incest: The Bottom Line

My last two posts, and indeed all my thinking on the subject has led me to some conclusions about the ways that Christian Patriarchy and purity culture enable and even celebrate emotional incest. The following are the cliff notes: Christian patriarchy turns marriage from a relationship to an institution, effectively reversing the historical trend from [Read More...]

Emotional Incest: The Mama’s Boy and the Other Woman

I have already written about the ways that growing up in fundamentalist-evangelical culture made me especially vulnerable to covert incest from my father. There is a flip side to the father-daughter craze in Christian patriarchy, though. I am here to bring you two stories: and one of them isn’t about me! In what would have [Read More...]


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