Wifely Submission and Honoring, Cherishing and Loving Your Wife as Your Own Body

Leaders of the Christian Patriarchy Movement and their disciples (minor pastors who covet their attention) will say a lot of things to sugarcoat wifely submission. Complementarians say that true contentment comes from submitting to your God-given role as an obedient helper to your husband. That women who feel unfulfilled need only to submit to their [Read More...]

Survival Songs: Mandi Perkins, Who I Am

Note: This is part of an ongoing series on songs that helped me break away from fundamentalism. An excerpt of the lyrics I found most meaningful is below the jump. [Read more...]

Group Identity and Child Abuse

A little while ago, Libby Anne wrote a great post called Sex Abuse, the First Stone, Judge Not, and All That. It’s about the ways that some evangelical Christians have responded to accusations against the late Tom White, former president of Voice of the Martyrs who killed himself while being investigated for child molestation. In [Read More...]

Emotional Incest: The Junior Wife

Libby Anne has begun a series on Emotional Incest at Love, Joy, Feminism. In her latest post, she also links Hugo Schwyzer’s striking analysis of the problems with the “Daddy’s Girl” myth and princess culture. The following is my attempt to confirm and add more perspectives to the issue they are bringing to light. As [Read More...]

From Holy Days to Happiness

I’ve been having great fun with the holidays this year. I made a Halloween costume. I bought candy and put up a jack o’ lantern. Now I’m getting ready for the winter with snowmen decals on my windows, Christmas lights and ornaments for the tree I’m going to buy in a few weeks. In between, [Read More...]

Occupy Compassion

The American political sphere is something like a gladiator’s ring taken over by staggering drunks wielding clubs. Everybody hates everybody else; hatred is a prerequisite for entry. The Occupy Wall Street movement throws our polarized culture into a stark light: the Right wants to denounce the protesters as a rabble of lazy, entitled hippies. The [Read More...]

Throwing out the moral GPS

This is cross-posted at No Longer Quivering. Growing up in fundamentalism was like living with a moral GPS navigator installed in my head. Every decision was mapped out already; all I needed to do was listen to the voice telling me where to go. Sometimes I could stop and look at the map. Most of [Read More...]

Doublespeak: Freedom is Safety

Fundamentalism has a nasty habit of redefining words. You can tell they’re doing it when the word to be defined is preceded by “true.” True Christians. True fulfillment. True peace. True freedom. Here’s an example of someone redefining freedom: Many people live under the false belief that God’s commandments are restrictive and that real freedom [Read More...]


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