40+ Adults And The Church / Survey Results #1

One conversation led to another. And another. And a bunch more after that. The conversations seemed to have a similar theme: “I’m over 40, and I have questions about my relationship with the local church.”

I’m a question-asker myself, and those conversations led me to wonder if there was something more to these exchanges than merely being a series of unplugged conversations with friends. I decided to put together a short on-line survey to find out. (Click here to have a peek at the survey*.)

I wondered how those of us born before 1973 were relating to a local church as we move into midlife and beyond. The results of this admittedly-unscientific survey have surprised me, and in a few cases, brought tears to my eyes.

Over the next few days, I’ll be sharing some of the results, as well as some thoughts on where this conversation might lead us. Today, a numerical snapshot about who took the post, where they attend church (if they do), and what they plan to do about church attendance if they don’t currently do so.

    1. As of this morning, 146 people have taken the survey. I was hoping that maybe 50 or 60 people would take a few moments to answer the questions, so the volume of responses has been gift. It also tells me that this topic is ripe for further exploration among those of us over 40 as well as among church leaders.
    2. I would assume that a social scientist or statistician would have inquired about church affiliation and the respondent’s personal belief system. I didn’t, as I was simply trying to get a reading of what people were experience. I am grateful I had the privilege of hearing from people from a wide variety of Christian faith traditions.
    3. Two-thirds of the respondents were female. Approximately 90% of the respondents of both genders were over 40 and under the age of 65.
    4. Of those who answered the question about marital status, 76% are married and nearly 6% are separated or divorced. The figure that surprised me: 17% reported their status as single, never married.
    5. 35% had been attending their congregation for 10 or more years, 25% for 4–9 years, 19% for 1–3 years, 9% for less than a year, and nearly 12% reported that they did not attend church. A few people added some words of explanation. A couple of those explained that relocation and travel kept them from regular church attendance. Others listed their status as occasional visitors. One watched church services online, and a couple of others said they do not attend an institutional church. One of those noted, “After ten years at the last church, and lifetime attendance, intentionally quit”.
    6. When asked to describe the demographics of the church they’d most recently attended on a regular basis, 64% reported that there was a generous mix of all age groups in the congregation. An additional 21% reported that their congregation was comprised mostly of people over age 40. 17% said the church they attended was made up of families with children under 18, and 2% said they attended a congregation of singles and young adults. A couple of the commenters noted that age diversity wasn’t an issue in their church, but ethnic and racial diversity was. A couple of others explained that their congregation was connected with a local university or campus ministry. Some of those who attended a church that skewed older said they were always looking to attract young families. One person asked, “When did I get old?”
    7. I asked those who weren’t attending a local congregation about their future plans in this regard, and heard from 23% of those taking the survey. 75% said they had no plans to change what they were currently doing. An additional 25% said they planned to connect with a new congregation. A whopping 0% said they planned to return to their former congregation. Though a few expressed contentment with their current unaffiliated status, most of the commenters expressed sorrow over what they’d experienced in the past at a local church: “I was very hurt by my experiences and when I tried to stand up and tell about the very wrong things that were going on, no one would listen or get involved”, “Hoping to find a community, but losing heart”, “Tired of the a church that uses all the right Christian lingo with no substance behind it”, “I consider looking for a new church, but I sort of expect more of the same – to be used and left unappreciated, or worse, find that my gifts are invalidated because I am a woman, or because I have disabled children”.

In my next post, I’ll share what I’ve heard from those taking the survey about the nature of their relationship with the local church as well as some of their own stunning words about why individual respondents have made the choices they have at midlife.

 

*The $15.00 Amazon gift card has been awarded, but I am still collecting responses. If you’re over 40 and haven’t taken the survey, please weigh in

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  • http://timfall.wordpress.com/ Tim

    Thanks for looking into this, Michelle. The selected responses go along with things I’ve heard over the years too. We recently left the congregation we’d been attending for decades, and the bottom line for me was that it was becoming too much church and not enough Jesus. I know that’s a loaded phrase, but in a sense it accurately describes what I saw happening there. I put the blame on myself to a degree, since I was in church leadership there for years. I probably could have done more to address this, but it’s hard when you keep running against resistance.

  • http://connectingdotstogod.com Judy Allen

    Fascinating. How do how do you interpret the question, “when did I get old?” I wonder if it reveals a disconnect between how middle-agers (is that a word?) think of themselves and how church organizations view them. I look forward to reading more of your insights, Michelle.

  • Michael Nickels-Wisdom

    Someone close to me was expelled from her church because she talked too much about Jesus.

  • Charles

    A good follow-up survey would be to determine what types of worship services Gen-X preferes. My parents (who are in their 60′s) love the contemporary service at the UMC I grew-up in. And the contemporary service at my present (Anglican) church is led by and attended by primarily Baby-boomers and their grandchildren. Most of my generation (born 1971), however, attends the more traditional liturgical service. As our church began catering to contemporary worship service on the assumption that that is what everyone like, most of my peers have become significatly less involved in the church, and several have left.

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  • Michelle Van Loon

    To each one of you (Tim, Judy, Michael and Charles) – I have been blown away by the response to this decidedly-unscientific survey. I wish I could partner with a statistician to do a couple of follow-ups. Worship style – the idea mentioned by Charles, is a good one.

    What I know so far is that my little 10-question survey touched on the tip of a giant iceberg. Thank you, thank you. Stay tuned, friends.

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