Resolutions, Regrets & Reset Buttons: A Giveaway

2015 is poised to enter, stage right. It's a time-honored tradition for many of us to greet the new year with a fresh list of resolutions.I'm going to lose 10 pounds. I'm going to run a marathon. Skydiving - it's gonna happen. I will purge the basement and garage. I am going to lose 10 pounds (I mean business this year.)  I will read the Bible from start to finish. I'm going to quit smoking. That's it. I'm joining a gym. I will volunteer in my community. I'm moving. Time fo … [Read more...]

The Antonym of Hope

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The December 5th edition of This American Life featured three haunting audio stories on the topic of regret. Host Ira Glass introduced the topic by noting the persistent nature of long-term regret: "Some regrets never go away. People tell us they forgive us, we try to forgive ourselves, and we still know like we did wrong, like we hurt somebody, it was real. And that feeling, it can immobilize you. If you're lucky, it teaches you something you can take into other situations. But I think often … [Read more...]

Who Is On Team “No Regrets”?

After months of writing and talking about regret, a few people have told me that they've thoughts about it, and they really don't have any regrets.Ninety-nine out of a hundred conversations I've had with others about regret include the other person sharing a few headlines of their own if onlys. I am always ready to reference my own regrets in those discussions as well.The "no regrets" crew has two distinct categories: (1) People who have sought to live wisely, and have made some poor … [Read more...]

My Regret: “…But I Never Said Anything.”

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I would not typically consider sharing a post someone left on my Facebook wall, but the words below from an old friend are timely in light of the mean-spirited words about suicide that have been written by a few bombastic internet trolls in the wake of the death of Robin Williams earlier this week. I shared a bit of Don and Kathy Groesser's story here and here a while ago. With Don's permission, I am sharing his brave, honest confession exactly as he left it on my wall. May it give each one of … [Read more...]

Heading To College With A Bit Less Baggage

As I shopped for school supplies for my soon-to-be sixth grade grandson at Target last week, I passed by a mom and her daughter doing what looked to be the "stocking the dorm room" shopping trip. The young woman was eagerly scanning the aisles for just the right towels. The mom was pushing the overflowing cart behind her, watching every move her daughter made as she readied for her big launch.There are lots of nostalgic articles and reflections at this time of year written by parents who are … [Read more...]

If Only We Could Have A Discussion About Our If Only’s

Happy August, friend! As miserable as last winter was for those of us living in the area of the country caught in the clutches of the Polar Vortex, this summer's mild temperatures and abundant sunshine have almost erased the memory of mountains of snow andFrozen-like temperatures.(Well, almost.)Though we're in the second half of summer, many of us are shopping for school supplies and looking ahead to autumn's schedules.For those of you involved in planning upcoming Bible studies, … [Read more...]

Pop Goes The Blessing Bubble

I've known a small handful of people who've had lives remarkably free from trial, reversal or loss. One woman I used to know had her entire life mapped out using the blueprint of the American Dream, Conservative Christian Version, from a very young age. Her life has gone pretty much the way she'd planned it: marriage, two kids, a dog, lovely suburban home, stable career, a bit of travel, a cozy group of friends. It was pretty amazing to witness over the years. If your life unfolds precisely as … [Read more...]


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