Sex, Drugs, and Getting Old

The moment might strike while antiquing; their eyes meet over a mid-century modern divan, and the sparks fly. Both middle-aged partners are ready for some empty-nester afternoon delight… thanks to the pharmaceutical industry. That’s the picture we get from the ads for erectile dysfunction medications such as Viagra, Cialis, and Levitra that pepper late-night TV programs. A new batch of commercials for the drug Osphena target women who experience painful intercourse, or dyspareunia, due to the ho … [Read more...]

A Positive Women’s Ministry Story

Some of the women of Digging Deeper.

An update from the Women's Ministry front:I've been at pastel tables featuring tea cups and doilies, making small talk with church ladies. I've gone to women's "retreats" that were nothing more than glorified teachfests with a side of craft projects, teary testimonies and awkward ice-breaker activities. I've been a part of women's Bible study groups that have been a reader response echo chamber: "What do you think this verse says?"/"I don't know. What do you think it says?"/"The notes in my … [Read more...]

Taken By A Trip


People don’t take trips, trips take people. – John Steinbeck As we returned to Chicago after two and a half strange and grueling days that began with a knock on our 6th floor hotel door in Haifa and ended with us staggering out of the airport in a stupor when we finally landed in Chicago, I realized that the trip that perhaps God most wanted me to take occurred during the final four hours.The journey began with those door-knockers: two young women who were dressed in what I'll call here a fe … [Read more...]

Bring It To Light


My husband and I left the US for Israel on May 21. In the span of the 10 days we've been here, I've been following a string of excruciating stories from the Evangelical world that have included the exposure of incest/abuse/coverup happening within America's favorite Bill Gothard poster family, the Duggars; the tale of legalistic spiritual abuse of a woman who divorced her pedophile husband by the leadership of Village Church, pastored by Acts 29 head Matt Chandler (who did offer an apology this w … [Read more...]

Review: Lessons In Belonging From A Church-Going Commitment Phobe


I used to believe there was something deeply flawed about me because I've been a part of a number of different churches over the last four decades. Between the pastors who shamed people for being church-hopping consumers and some congregants I've met along the way who were able to stick with a church for life, no matter how dysfunctional it was, I chalked up my own rolling-stone resume to some deeply flawed part of my character. Not any more. This survey was an eye-opener for me. I discovered … [Read more...]

Blessed Are The Angsters


Ed Stetzer wrote a helpful post called "Missional Angst and Western Church Norms" about the shift in the church away from consumer-driven models of ministry. He noted that some are being called out of existing churches to live their faith in more organic ways (the Radicals), others are choosing to stay put and tweak from within the organization (the Conservatives), and a third group are the Critics.He describes the latter group this way: " consultants, authors, professors, etc.—can be pr … [Read more...]

No Lido Deck On The S.S. Prodigal

lido deck flickr

This is hell week for those who are grieving the loss of a mother or child. Greeting card companies, florists, jewelers and kitsch vendors urge us to celebrate the mothers in our lives. School children across America are making crayoned cards to gift to their mamas this Sunday. Churches have mothers stand for a round of applause or pass out carnations to adult women as they leave the service. Though some churches have grown more sensitive to the fact that Mother's Day isn't easy for some in t … [Read more...]