April 19, 2016

I was fourteen years old when an older boy showed up on my street. I often walked my dog in the evenings, and he would drive up and down the street, slowing down to offer me every sex act he knew about (and a few I’m sure he knew nothing about at all). He tried to get me into his car on several occasions– and I was afraid of him. He worked in the store at the apple orchard next door to my house, so… Read more

April 15, 2016

All the available evidence shows that at the very least, sexual orientation is not something we choose, and may even be inborn genetically. So, is it possible that our sexual orientation and our sexual preferences may reveal some hidden bias or prejudice that even we may not be aware of? I got an interesting email from a listener of my podcast asking this very question not too long ago. He was worried that his own sexual preferences may show some… Read more

April 14, 2016

I grew up in a non denominational fundamentalist Christian home and church, and I believed the Bible with all my heart. At the age of 13, I was baptized, and invested even more into the dogma and lifestyle. I was a good Christian daughter so I didn’t secretly explore ANYTHING about sex as a child or teen. I do believe I may have received a couple of vague Health/Sex-Ed classes in junior high and high school, but they were far too late… Read more

April 13, 2016

A couple days ago The Huffington Post wrote an article about Major Mack, a Christian author, and his ideas about female masturbation and its demonic origins. Mack has written several e-books with titles like “Seduced by the Serpent: Yoga and Tantric Sex Revealed,” and “Hedonsim: Destroying Demonic Sexual Strongholds.” This self-proclaimed expert warns Christians about demonic sexual rituals and the dangers of masturbation. In his book “Diva, Goddess, Queen” Mack writes:  “Many of you who are reading this have sex… Read more

April 5, 2016

An actual conversation between my son and me recently: 4 yr. old: “Mommy, what do you do with your vagina?” Me: “Well, I can push babies out of it.” 4 yr. old: “How did the babies get there?” Me: “Daddy put them there. Remember when Jameson was in my belly and then I pushed him out that one day? Well, I pushed him out through my vagina.” 4 yr. old: “Yeah. How does daddy put babies in your belly?” Me:… Read more

April 4, 2016

Against my better judgment, I recently got into an argument with someone about how much our placement in history influences our thinking. He couldn’t get it. He condemned slavery and racism, but he also condemned my assertion that if he were alive in the era of Jim Crow, he’d probably have been a racist himself. A Jesus-loving racist. And hey, maybe I would have been, too. But I was inspired to speak up by this quote from blogger Libby Anne: Two centuries… Read more

April 1, 2016

There is an inescapable sense of community in a small town. Whether or not you are a willing participant, everyone knows you. My English teacher was also my Sunday School teacher. I rode to school on the bus with the same kids I sang with in church choir, which was led by my mother. My dad coached Little League. And he was a Southern Baptist preacher. Tight-Knit Community Privacy was a luxury, and anonymity didn’t exist inside or outside our… Read more

March 31, 2016

My religious upbringing included a message about breasts that can be summed up like this: Dear men, “Let her breasts satisfy you at all times.” (Proverbs 5:19) Dear women, “Your body [is] not your own.” 1 Corinthians 6:19 Read more

March 30, 2016

Jesusfreaks. That’s probably one of the most commonly used terms to describe my wife and me prior to our marriage. We met in December of 1998 while eating breakfast at our middle school lunch room. I caught her eye, and she caught mine, and within a month we were “going together.” Y’know— Going to Valentine’s dances in the back of mom’s car, to the movies in the back of mom’s car, or to bowling in the back of mom’s car. That same… Read more

March 28, 2016

You have probably heard the phrase “You get what you pay for.” When it comes to sex toys this is especially true. It may be surprising to find out that the adult toy industry is currently completely unregulated. In fact some of the plastics used to make cheap dildos have been banned in many developed countries for use in household products and children’s toys. But because adult toys are considered novelties, they often do not fall under these bans, and… Read more


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