Because The Bedpost Doesn’t Hurt

I heard this story around 9/11. There was a healer working on the back of a patient, in a bed. The healer would rub the patient’s back for a few minutes, then she would hold on to the bedpost for minute, then she would go back to rubbing the patient’s back. After 3 or 4 [Read More…]

Safe Space

One of the first steps of healing trauma seems to be telling your story. One of the essentials for telling your story is creating a safe space. How do you create a safe space? For me, it seems like safe spaces just happen. I know that it’s an illusion that they just happen, but it [Read More…]

Never Too Late

trau·ma  (trôm, trou-) n. pl. trau·mas or trau·ma·ta (-m-t) 1. A serious injury or shock to the body, as from violence or an accident. 2. An emotional wound or shock that creates substantial, lasting damage to the psychological development of a person, often leading to neurosis. 3. An event or situation that causes great distress [Read More…]

AIDS in America

The Washington Post had a special section yesterday on AIDS in America. In an article named “The invisible epidemic” there were these staggering numbers: About 1.2 million Americans are infected with HIV, the virus that causes AIDS, according to the U.S. Centers for Disease Control and Prevention. Of that total, 80 percent know they are [Read More…]

Response to Trauma

I’m spending the weekend at a retreat learning how to respond to trauma. The process is called Healing and Rebuilding Our Communities, and was developed in Rwanda and Burundi, and is a method of getting in touch with our own trauma and that of others. You can read more here. Actually, I like the philosophy [Read More…]

Turn Your Face Into the Breeze

The heat can make anyone grumpy. Not that it’s difficult to make me crabby, but yesterday in our building-cum-old- house church, it was 90 degrees, and we don’t have air conditioning. After working in the building, straightening-up, removing light bulbs to make it cooler, getting up and down on the ladder, I was definitely hot. [Read More…]

Exclusion and Embrace

I’m stunned by the vote in North Carolina yesterday, a constitutional amendment that defines marriage as “between a man and a woman.” The LA Times describes it like this: The amendment not only outlaws same-sex marriage — already illegal in the state — but bans civil unions and domestic partnerships for gay or straight couples. [Read More…]