Sometimes when I think of Grammar, I think of Love.


“You complete me.”

“You’re my missing puzzle piece.”

“I need you.”

“I’m nothing without you”

Are these really the kinds of phrases that should be associated with true love? When society puts so much emphasis on romantic relationships, it’s easy to build all of our confidence on these relationships. Then when they fall apart, we are left feeling empty, incomplete, broken. When we can’t find a romantic relationship, we feel that our lives are missing something.

I think that the healthiest relationships resemble compound sentences. In case you forgot all that grammar stuff back in high school, that’s two independent clauses joined by a coordinating conjunction (like “and”). Some clauses can stand alone as a sentence, while others can’t. Dependent clauses have to rely on an independent clause to “complete them,” forming a complex sentence. Independent clauses can stand by themselves, but if a coordinating modifier comes along, the independent clause can join with another independent clause to form a compound sentence.  So what does this have to do with relationships? It’s all about being complete.

Don’t be afraid to be your own complete person- to be an independent clause. You’re not “missing” anything. You can stand alone as your own wonderful sentence.  Then, if you find another independent clause- someone out there living his/her own life, see if your two complete sentences sound good together. And if they do, well, then head down to the “Conjunction Junction” and become a compound sentence. Become Complete Person AND Complete Person.

Or not. Because, if you choose to be an independent clause, you don’t HAVE to form a compound sentence. That’s the beauty of it. You never need to man/woman to complete you. You don’t have any missing pieces. You are a beautiful literary masterpiece written by God himself.


  • Heather Harris

    Sarah, this is beautiful. Seriously, you are an amazing writer and your thoughts and ideas are so refreshingly original, insightful, and profound. I appreciate all of your entries immensely, and honestly, God speaks through you so loudly it amazes me. You have a talent for the written word, and I’m so glad you use it to help others instead of just whining about your own life like a lot of bloggers tend to do. You’re a beautiful woman, both inside and out, and I feel so lucky to know you! I think you should write a book. I would definitely read it and recommend it to everyone I know!

  • http://moonchild11.wordpress.com moonchild11

    Thanks! I like comments like this that are encouraging, because every time I write a blog post, I have a mini panic attack that it is not going to be as good as it sounded in my head. I feel lucky to know you too, and I can’t wait to see you again next summer (lord willing and the creek don’t rise. haha)

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  • Carolyn Moon

    Those words are very true but remember that to make sentences complete it takes more then one word. Therefore having friends and family around makes life more complete too!

  • http://moonchild11.wordpress.com moonchild11

    Interdependence is important as a part of the larger picture- the novel that is the body of Christ! But that novel is made up of sentences both simple and compound. We need each other to make that story, but we become a part of that story by being our own sentence. The complicated, but wonderful paradox of Christian community! :)

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