The wrong spiritual gift?

Update: for anyone who'd like to read my male friend's personal thoughts on this issue, check out today's guest post: "Conquering with kindness!"I am not a fan of gender roles, as anyone who's been reading my blog lately knows. As a women, I am constantly presented with expectations that I either cannot, or do not wish to live up to.But gender roles are bad for men too.A few weeks ago, I had a discussion with a male friend of mine (who gave me permission to anonymously write about him) … [Read more...]

The problem with generalization

I have been unable to avoid thinking about the issue of gender roles in our society and in the church.A few days ago, a famous pastor posted a facebook status calling people to mock "anatomically effeminate males," and reactions to this brought up some interesting discussion in the blogging world. "What gives us the right to call a man effeminate?" people wondered. Where do our standards come from?Inspired by others (especially Tyler L. Clark and Dianna E. Anderson) who were frustrated with … [Read more...]

Words bruise

As I've discussed in several of my posts lately, my first boyfriend was abusive.He didn't hit me very often (in fact, I only remember him hitting me once). He didn't need to. He could bench press 300 lbs, so I was just a rag doll to him. He pushed me around, threw me into things, or picked me up and shook me when he was angry. If I tried to run away, he would grab my arm so tightly that it would leave bruises in the shape of his hand.Those things hurt. They hurt badly. And the bruises were … [Read more...]

Love by leaving

How do you love a boyfriend that abuses you? How do you treat an abusive girlfriend like Jesus would treat her? How do you forgive a person without letting him/her hurt you again?Ever since I broke up with my abusive first boyfriend five years ago, I've been searching for answers to this question.If I had treated him better...If I had stayed with him longer...If I hadn't responded with violence at the end (our break up involved me punching him in the face out of … [Read more...]

I’m ready to be a voice (I think)

I don't always finish what I start. About two weeks ago, I promised a series on the good and bad of Disney Princess movies.  But I never  finished writing even one post besides the introduction.Perhaps someday I'll pick the series up again, but at this point I have lost interest. I quit because I got stuck. I had ideas. I even made an outline (and I never do that). But the first movie that I planned on analyzing, Beauty and the Beast, hit much too close to home.The "bad" that I was going … [Read more...]


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