I’m happy.

I'm happy.It feels good to say that and really mean it. Life has been a struggle ever since I can remember--healing from abuse suffered as a child and as a teenager--and life is still a struggle.But I feel like I'm winning.For the first time in my life I feel like I'm winning. I am healing. I am at peace with who I am as a person and as a woman, thanks to feminism. I am at peace with my spirituality thanks to a few good churches and thanks to Universalism and feminist theology. I feel … [Read more...]

Plans for 2013

I know I haven't written in this ol' blog as often as I should. Life's been busy and exhausting. I keep telling myself I'll get back to this someday, and I really do believe that's true--especially since I'll soon be quitting the fast food job that sucks away 90% of my energy and creativity.You folks can hold me to it. I'm a writer, damn it. I need to write.So here's some of my New Year goals for the blog:*Start a reread of The Bible, reading it not as a Biblical literalist with something … [Read more...]

When I don’t want to be a Christian anymore, I just believe in love

I believe in love.I feel that I must take a moment to define my term as best as I can here. I'm not talking about romance or affection or coziness or anything else that we all sometimes call love.I mean the force that moves us to see others as fully human. The force that moves us to care, and to hope for (and more importantly work for) a world where everyone is seen as (and treated as) fully human.Love, the absence of abuse, oppression, discrimination, exploitation.Love, the absence of … [Read more...]

Why?

Trigger Warning for discussion of Sandy Hook Elementary shootingsWhy?I guess that's what everyone's wondering in the wake of the Sandy Hook Elementary School shootings this week. Why did this happen? Could we have prevented it? How can we stop it from happening again?As an activist, I turn my eyes to social structures, to laws, to ideologies of domination. I think of words from Martin Luther King Jr., from so many years ago, that apply still today: "we must be concerned not merely about … [Read more...]

A church “building project” that made a difference

Many churches get super excited about building projects. These projects are supposed to represent big changes to the church, new ideas, progress, and relevance.Even the fundamentalist churches I've attended got excited about building projects, though these usually involved new gymnasiums where we could play the A.W.A.N.A "run around the circle and then go in for the beanbag" games rather than stadium seats or new stages for the worship band.Still, the idea is the same. If we build THIS, they … [Read more...]

On apologetics

Often I try to process my faith publicly, either through my blog or through facebook or twitter. Sometimes in personal conversations, although my introverted self has a rough time with that. Usually this is a good experience. I receive support and affirmation, "me too"s and "I believe something else but your way is cool too"s, or "have you considered ____"s. I have friends who know more theology than I do, who chip in. I have friends who are atheists who challenge me. There are times when I … [Read more...]

Their caricatures of me aren’t me.

Language is powerful, and so, when we find ourselves with enemies, we use their own language against them. Oppressive people do this to me often.They tell me I must tolerate their hateful, abusive religious beliefs.They tell me that speaking out against their slurs is taking away their free speech. They say I must coexist by remaining friends with people who actively work to take away the rights of my other friends.They call me a bad pacifist when I get angry (even if I do not act out in … [Read more...]

A new hope

Today, I checked my phone compulsively for tweets from Connor Park and Dianna Anderson, who were updating the Twitter world on the status of the Church of England's synod on whether or not to ordain women bishops. Today, I thought that there was no way women could lose this battle. No way.But I was wrong.Today, I sat in the student union, and a couple of men (who I can only describe as "dudebros") sat down near me. As I received the disappointing news via Twitter that the Church of England h … [Read more...]

In Praise of the Doubting Thomas–A Book Review

My friend Travis Mamone has a new ebook out. It's called In Praise of the Doubting Thomas, and I recommend it.It's short, and I finished it in under two hours, but it's also thought-provoking and affirming. Travis, in his honest, conversational writing style, tells the story of his faith journey--how he made peace with his doubts without giving up on his faith.Travis's faith journey reminds me of my own (and, indeed, since we've been reading each other's blogs for a few years now, our j … [Read more...]

“Progressive” Christianity and Premarital Sex

Almost exactly one year ago, I read an article on Relevant Magazine that made me realize that I had absolutely no personal convictions to remain abstinent.I had grown up in the dead-center of the purity movement. I'd worn the silver rings, made the pledges, condescended to the teenage mothers, read the Joshua Harris books, and all the other lovely rituals that seem to be involved in that movement. However, after an abusive partner coerced me into sex and eventually raped me, I had to let go of … [Read more...]


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