Why I’m not forgiving Paula Deen

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Trigger Warning for Discussion of Racism/Racial Slurs A few weeks ago, during a slow day at work, I listened to two of my coworkers strike up a conversation about "the n word." One of my coworkers was opposed to anyone using the word. He told my other coworker that he knows other black people disagree, but he would rather not hear anyone--including black people--say it. My other coworker responded that this word was "just a word," and "I just don't let it have power over me." The … [Read more...]

Guidelines for a holistic sexual ethic, part 3

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If you haven't read my other two posts on sexual ethics, I suggest you do so to get the full context. The first post can be found here, and the second here. As a reminder, I've been talking about a few basic guidelines that can help people form a holistic sexual ethic. I'm doing this to combat the idea that purity-culture and/or wait-til-marriage Christians have a monopoly on ethical sex, and the idea that waiting until marriage is in itself a holistic sexual ethic. In my last post on this … [Read more...]

When the moral arc of the universe feels more like a roller-coaster

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Martin Luther King Jr. (paraphrasing Theodore Parker) once said, "The arc of the moral universe is long, but it bends toward justice." I want to believe that's true. I have to believe that's true. But after this week, I'm beginning to think that Dr. King's arc looks more like a roller-coaster. Of course, Dr. King certainly knows better than I ever will that justice doesn't just happen, and that no matter how many strides you make forward, someone's always going to be trying to push you … [Read more...]

Guidelines for a holistic sexual ethic, part 2

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The other day, I talked about how I've noticed over the past few months many Christians talking about "sexual ethics." I mentioned that, even Christians trying to move away from shaming and purity culture often fall into this dichotomy of "marital sex as ethical" vs. "premarital sex as dangerous, objectifying, and trying to avoid consequences." I think sexual ethics are important. I also think they look a little different from person to person. And Idefinitelythink that views which … [Read more...]

Guidelines for a holistic sexual ethic, part 1

I know I told you the other day that I would be too busy to post much this week. Well, that's true. I'm pretty busy. But when your choices are "write a paper for health class" and "write about SEX" which are you going to choose (unfortunately, my paper for health class is not about sex)? Really, though. I've been seeing conversations about sex circling throughout the blogging world, and I want to add my own thoughts. This isn't a response to anyone in particular, but the past few months I've … [Read more...]

Blogging’s been slow, so here’s a cat.

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Hi, readers. This is just an update to let you know that, although I have not been blogging as often as I usually do, I am alive and well. I've been finishing up a few summer classes the past couple of weeks, and should be done next Wednesday. Until then, however, I'll be super busy! When I do have free time, I'll probably be resting my brain by playing Zelda or reading books about rapid dogs. Once school is out next week, and I'm DONE being an undergraduate student forever (hopefully), I'll … [Read more...]

Would Father’s Day be different?

Would Father's Day be different . . . If Christianity wasn't preaching that, not only are they allowed to hit their children, but they must hit their children in order to be good fathers? If complementarianism wasn't telling dads that it's a woman's job to raise children, and that caring, nurturing men are "emasculated?" If society wasn't still pumping out the tired, old idea that masculinity equals power, and that men who do not have complete control over their families are not real … [Read more...]

Must Reads!

Princess Buttercup, everybody.

Here's some interesting and important pieces from around the web! Also, a picture of one of my cats. "My challenge to straight cisgender Christians that are working out what it means to follow the Gospel of Jesus when it comes to LGBTQ people and issues is to spend time listening to us." We’re finding God not in the church buildings, but in the streets. Reading queerly saved my faith. This notion that the most important thing is being on the right team sustains a culture that’s … [Read more...]

When my abuser is welcome at the table, I am not.

It's the cool thing in more progressive branches of Christianity now to talk about how EVERYONE is welcome at the communion table. I should be glad about that, I guess. I mostly just serve communion to myself (sometimes a cat or two joins in) while locked in my bedroom nowadays. Not much of a "communion," I know. I'm probably committing all sorts of blasphemy, but that's the best I can do right now. Maybe if I swapped the leftover pizza that I use as the body of Christ for some Zoloft I'd be … [Read more...]

God as a woman, seeking out the marginalized

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One of the most popular images of God in the Bible is the image of God the shepherd. Through this image, we see God as a humble, but loving and protective man. A man who wants all of his sheep--99 out of 100 isn't enough!--to be safe. I particularly like this image, actually. It shows me a God that refuses to exclude the minority. A God that is not simply interested in getting in good with the popular crowd. It shows me a vision for God's kingdom as a safe space for the marginalized. But … [Read more...]