Why Do We Blame the Victim?: We Are Afraid of a World Outside of Our Control

Found on New Leaf Wellness[image: text reading "You can't control other people. You can only control your reactions to them."]

[Content Note: Victim Blaming, Abusive Relationships]The topic of victim blaming has been on my mind quite a bit lately.As I mentioned in a previous post, the Wisdom Literature in the Bible--which I've been studying for a class I'm taking--takes an ambivalent approach toward victim blaming. While Proverbs almost always promotes a doctrine of retribution where "what goes around comes around," the book of Job radically and passionately challenges this idea.Also, my church (The … [Read more...]

N.T. Wright: A Follow-Up

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I'm still getting interesting responses to the post on N.T. Wright and marriage equality that I wrote a couple of weeks ago. N.T. Wright fans can get vicious, y'all. I don't think I've ever gotten death threats from Nazi sympathizers on here before (and I've had my blog linked both to Reddit Men's Rights, and Douglas Wilson's blog, so that's saying something). Skipping over the troll comments, I thought I'd tackle some of the more "serious" responses in this follow-up post. Fuckin' Analogies! … [Read more...]

On Proverbs, Job, and Why Victim Blaming is Next to Blasphemy

Image from William Blake's Illustrations of the Book of Job (via wikipedia commons)[Job in anguish, being comforted by his three friends and his wife]

I've been taking a class on the Psalms and Wisdom Literature, and reading both the books of Job and the books of Proverbs, which seem to take a drastically different approach to the topic of blaming victims.Proverbs is filled with statements about the way the world supposedly works: People who despise advice will find themselves in trouble; those who respect it will succeed (13:13)Poor is he who works with a negligent hand, But the hand of the diligent makes rich. (10:4)Commit your … [Read more...]

More Like N.T. Wrong, Amirite?: How N.T. Wright’s Bigotry Causes Him To Contradict His Own Theology

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In case you haven't heard, N.T. Wright--author of theology books such as Surprised By Hope and Simply Christian, and former Bishop of Durham--recently did an interview in which he compared people who support marriage equality to Nazis and Soviet Communists.Nazis.And Soviet Communists.While I'm not surprised that Wright is not on board with marriage equality (he's brought up his opposition to LGB people in several other places), I was a little shocked to hear a man who is considered, a … [Read more...]

A Benediction for My Fellow Queer Christians

For personal safety reasons, I'm going to ask anyone who chooses to share this post to please not tag me on any social media sites. Thank you.   ______________It's not a sin to be gay, lesbian, or bisexual. And I don't mean it like some folk mean it--"It's not a sin to be gay! Just to act on your gayness." To quote my grandmother-in-law, "That's horse piss!" Acting gay, lesbian, or bisexual--finding members of your own sex attractive; crushing on, dating, marrying, flirting with, and/or sl … [Read more...]

This Guy Broke Up With His Girlfriend Using Only Memes (And I’m Not Laughing)

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[Content Note: Death Threats, Shootings, Violence Against Women]Sometimes I click on click-bait. I admit it. Sometimes I eat Taco Bell too. As you could probably guess, I often regret both shortly thereafter. I didn't eat a waffle taco this morning, but I did click on that story that's been going around about Kane Zipperman, teenage guy who broke up with his girlfriend using memes.And yes, I regretted it.At first I just closed the tab and rolled my eyes and went about my day as … [Read more...]


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