How does inequality hurt men?

My previous post was a release of all the sarcastic comments that I have been holding inside since I became a feminist. It was a response to every negative comment that I received because of making that decision. I wanted to express my frustrations that so many people don't believe feminism is relevant, that so many people think that women are now equal to men or even the new oppressors of men. That so many people believe equality is a zero-sum game.And I think some people missed the point.I … [Read more...]

Crisis Alert! Men are doomed!

Note: Some people have spoken to me about being confused about my intent in this blog post. I would like to clarify that this is not an attack on the legitimate struggles that men face because of inequality. This is an expression of my frustration toward a culture that claims female advancement must be suppressed because it is contributing to the "downfall of men." For more information, read my latest blog post. Thank you, and I'm sorry for any lack of clarity! CRISIS ALERT!That's right. W … [Read more...]

Stop breaking off pieces of yourself in the name of Biblical manhood or womanhood!

"Play your position!"I've read this illustration many times: " If a goalie on the soccer team spends all his energy trying to score a goal, he hurts his team because he's not playing his position."True, true. Great advice.But then they continue. They always continue. "You're a woman. You don't need to be doing man's work. You'll hurt your family if you're out pursuing a PhD instead of caring for your children. You'll hurt your family if you are being ambitious toward your own goals rather … [Read more...]

Start giving a damn!

Yesterday I wrote about how I stopped letting the fear of getting a "bad reputation" run my life. Like Joan Jett, I stopped giving a damn. But when I learned to stop giving a damn, I also learned to start giving a damn.I learned to start giving a damn about the people that society/church told me to avoid, even when it hurts my social status.I learned to start giving a damn about injustice and inequality, even when it caused controversy.I learned to start giving a damn about the difficult … [Read more...]

Stop giving a damn!

This morning, I counted how many days it's been since I last wrote something.Six days.Six long days where I was unable to write.At first, I wondered if I've had writer's block. But, no. I've had so many ideas for blog posts lately that my brain can hardly juggle them all. No, writer's block isn't the problem.The problem is that I started giving a damn.Like most people, I spent the majority of my life giving a damn what people thought about me. I wanted to be liked. I wanted to be … [Read more...]

Continued thoughts on Nice Guy Syndrome

I recently wrote a post about Harold Lauder, a character from Stephen King's The Stand. I mentioned that Harold has a thing called "Nice Guy Syndrome."One criticism of that post came from a man who complained, "Can't be nice, can't be a jerk! It's tough being a male!"I'm truly sorry if anyone else got the vibe from my last post that I don't like nice guys. That wasn't my intent. In fact, I love nice guys. I'm dating one. I appreciate any man who goes out of his way to be kind to others. I am … [Read more...]

The Stand and Nice Guy Syndrome

One of my favorite books of all time is Stephen King's The Stand, an epic tale in which 99% of the human race is killed by a super-flu. The story follows the survivors, as they fight to make their way in a post-apocalyptic world.My favorite character in the book (and one of my favorite female literary characters of all time) is Frannie Goldsmith, a strong, pregnant, college-aged woman who loses everyone she knows to the super-flu- everyone, that is, except her best friend's brother, Harold … [Read more...]

Listen up, Zoloft…

This past Thursday was the happiest I've been in months.That's a little weird to say because I didn't have any big adventures or go to any cool concerts. I just got up at 9:00 am and walked to French class in the rain, and it was cold and my socks got wet. Then, I went to the doctor's office and filled out papers and got needles shoved into my veins and stuff.But, as I mentioned in my last blog post, after my appointment, my doctor gave me a prescription for hope....oh, and also … [Read more...]

Sarah vs. Evil Overlord Depression

I don't remember exactly when I first started suffering from depression. It was probably around junior high.Back then, depression would waltz in and out of my life. It would stick around for a few days or weeks, then it would leave, and it would forget to call, and good riddance!When I started dating my abusive ex-boyfriend at age 16, depression decided to crash on the futon for a few weeks. Those weeks turned into months......and years.The first two years involved many a prayer to … [Read more...]

Here’s to the men!

Last week, I participated in my university's "Take Back the Night" event.We held a rally and a march in which we spoke out against rape and violence against women. Then, we held a speak out in which women shared their stories and their reasons for participating in "Take Back the Night."It was a poignant, sobering, empowering, comforting, enlightening, beautiful night.Although I thoroughly enjoyed marching through fraternity row carrying signs and shouting, "Stop the silence, end the … [Read more...]


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