Purity Culture Doesn’t Want Men To Stop Getting Sex: It Wants Women To Stop Getting Power

Yesterday, I stumbled across an interesting blog post by David Murrow of "Church For Men." Interesting in that it is revealing of the way Christian purity culture operates.Purity Culture claims to be an anti-sex movement, but it's really not. As I've pointed out before, in purity culture is often all about sex...in marriage. Just take a gander at Mark Driscoll's infamous "Can We ____?" chapter of his book Real Marriage wherein he extols the virtues of marital sex--even oral sex, anal sex, and … [Read more...]

No, We’re Not All On The Same Side

"Why are you arguing with me? We're on the same side!" I've heard this a lot, from so many different groups--from feminists, from Christians, from progressives/liberals, and from LGBTQ circles.It's often accompanied by similar phrases like, "Let's focus on the real enemy here," and "We're wasting our energy infighting!"It's interesting how many people from how many different groups assume I'm on "their side."I don't like this phrase.I don't think everyone who uses it has ma … [Read more...]

“Made Up, But Also True:” A Theology of “The Lego Movie”

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I have a weird relationship with the Bible.I grew up, as most Christian fundamentalists did, believing the Bible was literal. That every word was true. That every story actually happened. That if the Bible wasn't literally true, then there'd be no reason to be a Christian.So, when I went off to a state college and took history and science classes that convinced me that the Genesis stories weren't scientifically accurate, and that several of the Biblical "stories" I'd grow up with didn't m … [Read more...]

#Marissa418: White Feminists, It’s Time To Question Our Trust In The Police

Carceral feminism tells us that the state is capable of reform and pushed women to rely on state services for protection from gender violence, despite the state being the biggest perpetrator of gender violence both here and abroad. Focusing on the safety of white women has led to policies such as Stop-and-Frisk and Stand Your Ground laws that have led to criminalization of people of color. We truly can not expect a system of violence to be the solution for ending violence. Prison abolition is … [Read more...]

Reclaiming “Third Way”

"Third Way" Via XKCD

I’ve reached a point in my life where I cringe whether I hear someone talk about a “Third Way.” Regardless of the context, this term is often used by privileged white men as a way to avoid responsibility, ignore power structures, and decenter marginalized people in order to protect the feelings of the privileged. The white men who tell black protesters not to be so angry, because, you know, MLK!  The ones that believe an abused woman using self-defense against her abuser is just as “sinful” in … [Read more...]

Join Killjoy Prophets for #Marissa418

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[Content Note: Discussion of Police and State Violence]  Growing up in (primarily, or nearly exclusively white) churches, I had often heard that the most important words in the world were the words of Jesus. We had Bibles that highlighted his words in red, and we memorized verse after verse after verse. And yet, I'd never heard much about Luke 4:18:The Spirit of the Lord is on me, because she has anointed me to proclaim good news to the poor. She has sent me to proclaim freedom for the … [Read more...]

Mark Driscoll Still Hates Women. Apology Not Accepted

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Content Note: Mark Driscoll, sexism, homophobia, transmisogyny There’s a good chance you’ve heard by now that someone recently dug up some conversations that mega-church pastor Mark Driscoll had on a Mars Hill message board way back in 2000, under the pseudonym of William Wallace II. If you haven’t heard you can catch up at Matthew Paul Turner or Rachel Held Evans' place. You're probably all sick of hearing about this by now and like, "Ugh, I don't want to read another blog post about this." If … [Read more...]

Lauren Winner’s Real Sex and Sex as Sacrament

Image of the book cover of Real Sex, by Lauren Winner. The cover is black, with a white blooming flower.

Recently (at the request of many blog readers who read my series on Christian dating books: “You Are Not Your Own”), I borrowed Real Sex, by Lauren Winner* from my local library and read it. As I’ve stated in a previous blog post, I was not a fan. It failed to live up to the promise of  being “one of the good Christian dating books,” like those who recommended it said it would. I’d like to talk about one interesting concept found therein: the idea that sex cannot and should not be separated from … [Read more...]

#FaithFeminisms: I Know God Because I Know Feminism

Hildegard Von Bingen (1165)[medieval artwork of a woman/angelic being with wings, holding a small group of people in her arms]

I've heard many Christian feminists say that they are a feminist because of Jesus—because of their Christianity. I think that's great. It's not my story, however. I am not a feminist because of Jesus. I am a Christian because of feminism..Before I began to view my Christian faith through a feminist lens, I was convinced that there was no redeeming it. I grew up in conservative Christian fundamentalism, going to a church and Christian high school that I consider abusive and cult-like. Even a … [Read more...]

#FaithFeminisms: My Voice and Yours

As I mentioned in a recent post, I am excited to see so many conversations about feminism popping up all over the Christian blogophere lately. But with that excitement comes some skepticism and hesitation. I'm not a huge fan of some of the conversations about Christian feminism happening.Criticism from women being dismissed as "looking for things to be angry about," being "humorless,"  failing to "speak life," or wanting a "bush vs. beard contest."Unnecessary lines--which often rely on … [Read more...]


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