Damming up justice: King David, power, and rape

As many of you know, I've been doing research on Christian dating books and their treatment of rape and sexual assault. One such book that I've been reading is the infamous I Kissed Dating Goodbye, by Joshua Harris.In one section that I found interesting, Harris is explaining that "purity does not happen by accident. After telling the story of David and Bathsheba, and reminding us that protecting our purity is a constant process, Josh Harris goes on to explain the "seductive spirit of ido … [Read more...]

Loving my body for Lent

As a former fundamental Baptist, this is only my second year of observing Lent. Lent, when I was growing up, was one of those things that Catholics do because they don't really believe in Jesus (I don't think most Baptist preachers actually know any Catholics) and so they are enslaved to law and to rules and boundaries.I thought, as a Baptist, that I was so lucky to not be enslaved to rules like those Catholics were.Funny, considering the fact that when I was thinking this, I likely had on … [Read more...]

Must Reads!

It's been awhile since I've had the time to sit down and post links to my favorite blog posts. So I'm going to catch up today, and share some of my favorite posts from the past 2 or 3 weeks. Enjoy these smart people and their smart words!"If there is one thing that Western Christians and atheists have in common it is a shared legacy of colonizing bodies of color.""You can get a lot of people to do what you want them to do or believe what you want them to believe by saying God will be … [Read more...]

On privilege and taking the stairs

Many people think we shouldn't talk about privilege. Usually, those people who say we shouldn't talk about privilege have quite a lot of it. But (speaking even as a relatively privileged person), speaking about privilege is important, and I think the concept of privilege is often misunderstood.So, I want to share an illustration that helped me understand the concept a little better. I've based this illustration off of an example of privilege given by one of my Women's Studies professors--Ami … [Read more...]

Objects don’t have sex

I didn't watch the Superbowl, this year (or...any year) but conversations about Beyoncé's halftime show caught my eye. On one hand, many felt that Beyoncé's display of all-women power and sexuality was inspiring and empowering. David Henson even went so far as to call it prophetic (and I agree): It was a dance of defiance.For 14 minutes, women were owned by no one. Instead, for those few prophetic and powerful minutes, Beyoncé and the women onstage with her owned the night.Last night, men, mi … [Read more...]

It won’t be their world anymore: Universalism with boudaries

I really don't know what I believe about the afterlife.Ever since I gave up the idea of an eternal hell, I've found myself able to embrace many different theories with some comfort.As a Christian, though, I find particular comfort in the idea of a future Kingdom of God.I am inspired and energized by the hope against hope that what's next is some kind of Kingdom ruled by a Love and by a just God.However, this idea has a lot of baggage surrounding it--mainly the idea that anyone who isn't … [Read more...]

Why I’m a Unitarian Universalist

I want to talk about faith for a second.I'm a Unitarian Universalist. People often ask me what that means. Basically, it's an interfaith religion that celebrates diversity, yet finds unity. Unity is found, not an agreement on doctrine, theologies, images of God, etc. but on these seven principles (quoted from UUA.org):The inherent worth and dignity of every person; Justice, equity and compassion in human relations; Acceptance of one another and encouragement to spiritual growth in our … [Read more...]

Account and Countenance

Trigger Warning for intimate partner violence/verbal abuse and spiritual abuseI'm on a guest-posting streak apparently, because today I'm over at Dianna Anderson's blog talking  about images of God for her Account and Countenance series. I look around me, years later, and I see a Church that is terrified to look its theology in the face. I see a Church that is somehow okay with having two drastically different definitions of love—one for humans and one for God. I see a Church that holds God to … [Read more...]

Do Gender Roles Cause Unrealistic Expectations for Relationships?

I wrote a guest post for Kevin Olenick about how the gender roles I learned in a Joshua Harris book put an unnecessary amount of stress and pain on a previous relationship. When my last boyfriend and I started getting more serious about our relationship and were wondering “Where do we go from here?” we decided to seek some counsel from books. So I went to the Christian bookstore on my Christian college’s campus and picked up Boy Meets Girl by Joshua Harris.Now, my ex and I had both grown up in … [Read more...]

Let me be angry.

Trigger Warning for abuse and rape: I've been tired of fighting. Been feeling like nothing is coming through. Been terrified of being dismissed as an angry feminist. But being too filled with words--bursting at the seams with them. All the words I've held back because of fear and good ol' Christian niceties.All those words can't be contained anymore.Because things are wrong.Things are unfair.People are hurting.How can you just stand there?And there I go again. I guess I am just an … [Read more...]


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