Love and the mystery of men and women

I've been reading bell hook's book All About Love: New Visions. In it, she stresses the importance of defining love so that we can't be controlled by abusive people who claim to love us. She borrows her definition of love from M. Scott Peck: "the will to extend one's self for the purpose of nurturing one's own or another's spiritual growth...Love is as love does. Love is an act of will--namely, both an intention and an action."  hooks later discusses our culture's reluctance to define … [Read more...]

Feminism and abstinence

bell hooks states in her book Feminist Theory, From Margin to Center: One aspect of sexual norms that many people find oppressive is the assumption that one "should" be engaged in sexual activity. This "should" is one expression of sexual coercion...When...emphasis is placed on ending sexual oppression...it is possible to envision a society in which it is as much of an expression of sexual freedom to choose not to participate in sexual activity as it is to choose to participate. Having grown up … [Read more...]

Happy International Women’s Day and Feminist Coming Out Day!

March 8th is an exciting day! First of all, it's my wonderful partner's 28th birthday (Happy Birthday, Abe!). Second, it's National Colon Cleansing Day (Remember! A clean colon is a happy colon). And then, it's International Women's Day and Feminist Coming Out Day! As much as I love Abe and colons, this post is going to focus on the latter two. When I first "came out" as a feminist about a year ago, I got a lot of responses. Some positive, some discouraging. But, I think, by far the most … [Read more...]


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