New blog series on Patheos!

In case you missed yesterday's announcement, this blog has moved to the Patheos blogging network! I'll be posting updates here for awhile to redirect people over there, but you may want to head over to and sign up for email updates if you want to keep in touch in the long run! I hope to see you over there, because I'm starting a new series called "You Are Not Your Own" in which I'll be sharing the results of some research that I've done on rape and s … [Read more...]

New Series on Rape and Sexual Assault in Christian Dating Books: “You Are Not Your Own”

If you're a regular reader from my old address at, or if you follow me on social media (and if you don't, check out my Facebook page and Twitter account!), you've probably heard me about a research project that I've been working on since January for my undergraduate capstone. I've been reading Christian dating books and analyzing the messages that they send (or fail to send) about rape, sexual assault, and consent. My project is called "You Are Not Your Own: Rape, Sexual … [Read more...]

God is not really a king.

I've been thinking a lot about my deepest held images of God: why do I hold them? Where do they come from? What do they say about the Christian faith I was raised in? What do they say about me? How do they hold me back? Or how could they possibly be liberating?I used to be afraid to think about images of God. I used to think that if there were no more images of God, God would disappear for me.Yet, personal religious experiences that I've had recently have changed my mind.I believe … [Read more...]

Guest Post for Alise Write

Hi friends!My research project is done, my exams are finished, and (though I still have a few summer classes to take) I'll be walking in the Oakland University graduation ceremony at 4 pm today. I think it's time I start blogging again.So, let's mark my triumphant return with a guest post for the wonderful Alise Write! I've written for Alise about how I've navigated my relationship with my fiance, Abe, as we both travel along in our individual faith journeys. When I first met my fiancé, … [Read more...]

The cross and radical activism

The idea that Jesus chose, out of his own free will, to go to the cross is a favorite among abusive church leaders. What better way to get people to submit to you than to compare the God they worship to a lamb led to slaughter? Over and over and over I've heard Jesus' submissiveness unto death used as an excuse to abuse or to silence those who wish to call out abuse.I want to propose a different perspective and I want to start with a woman named Alice Paul.In 1917, women in the United S … [Read more...]

Crucifixion and Liberation

[Trigger warnings for abuse, rape, and violence against oppressed groups]I recently wrote a blog post for Rachel Held Evans in which I talked about how many popular images of God are abusive. Someone left this comment: I read something once -and it has troubled me since - that God requiring Jesus to die on the cross 'for our sins' was the equivalent of child abuse. I would love to hear some opinions on this matter.A few commenters jumped in to say that since Jesus IS God, it was a … [Read more...]

Spiritual Abuse Awareness Week: Violences are Connected

Back in February, Sen. Marco Rubio explained why he opposed the Violence Against Women Act: I could not support the final, entire legislation that contains new provisions that could have potentially adverse consequences. Specifically, this bill would mandate the diversion of a portion of funding from domestic violence programs to sexual assault programs. Rubio has this idea, apparently, that different types of abuse have nothing to do with one another. Not a surprising conclusion in a world … [Read more...]

On equality, humility, and privilege: A response to Matt Appling

When I first began blogging, one blogger that I both read and respected was Matt Appling of "The Church of No People." He was even on my blogroll for quite awhile. I start with this because I want you to know that I once thought like he did. I was raised to think like he did, and I'm sure he was raised in a similar way.I want you to understand, before I write this response, that I do so with as much understanding and empathy as I can sum up, because I've "been there."But I want to write this … [Read more...]

Loving my body for Lent

As a former fundamental Baptist, this is only my second year of observing Lent. Lent, when I was growing up, was one of those things that Catholics do because they don't really believe in Jesus (I don't think most Baptist preachers actually know any Catholics) and so they are enslaved to law and to rules and boundaries.I thought, as a Baptist, that I was so lucky to not be enslaved to rules like those Catholics were.Funny, considering the fact that when I was thinking this, I likely had on … [Read more...]

Must Reads!

It's been awhile since I've had the time to sit down and post links to my favorite blog posts. So I'm going to catch up today, and share some of my favorite posts from the past 2 or 3 weeks. Enjoy these smart people and their smart words!"If there is one thing that Western Christians and atheists have in common it is a shared legacy of colonizing bodies of color.""You can get a lot of people to do what you want them to do or believe what you want them to believe by saying God will be … [Read more...]