Complementarianism’s ugly relationship with rape

[Trigger warning: rape apologism] [Update: I've changed some mentions of "evangelical leaders" to "complementarian leaders" to clarify that I am referring specifically to complementarians in this post. I have a habit of using the two interchangeably because of my experiences in evangelicalism, but there is a growing number of awesome feminist evangelicals out there who don't deserve to be lumped in with complementarians] Over the past few months, I've called out evangelical Christian … [Read more...]

Losing my purity…ring.

Hi friends! I'm over at Love, Joy, Feminism today talking about purity rings. My cousin gave me a purity ring for Christmas in 2005. She also gave them to several other young women in our Independent Fundamental Baptist youth group. I don’t think any of us fully realized what we were saying to the world by wearing them—“I have never had a penis in my vagina!”—but we wore them with pride. When another girl would get too involved with a boyfriend but still wear her purity ring, we would … [Read more...]

John Shore on IFB survivors and my journey toward healing

This piece at John Shore's blog just awakened all kinds of emotions for me: In surviving the worst survivors of IFB have become the best. The writings that I’ve read from former IFBs are some of the strongest testimonies to the strength and decency of the human spirit that I’ve ever come across. I appreciate being asked to offer you guys a word of support, but you should be offering support to me and anyone else lucky enough to hear what you have to say. You’re the power. You’re the … [Read more...]

“A New Creation:” Christianity and trans* rights

Before I start this blog post, some definitions for anyone not familiar with trans* issues! According to wikipedia, "transgender is the state of one's gender identity (self-identification as woman, man, neither or both) not matching one's assigned sex (identification by others as male, female or intersex based on physical/genetic sex)." A transgender person is someone who doesn't believe the gender they were assigned at birth accurately describes them.  Gender identity is different than … [Read more...]

Unseduced and Unshaken: A Book Review

      The following is a book review of Rosalie de Rosset's book, Unseduced and Unshaken: The Place of Dignity in a Young Woman's Choices. I've been given a copy of the book to give to one of my readers, so if you're interested in a free book, leave a comment!    When I first began reading Unseduced and Unshaken (which one of my twitter followers joked sounded like what you'd get when you played a James Bond film backwards), though there were a few aspects of it … [Read more...]

The politics of forgiveness.

When Jesus was walking around on earth, in between turning water into wine and chillin' with sex workers and other folks that society didn't look on too fondly, he talked a lot about forgiveness. And when Jesus talked about forgiveness, it was always radical. It always gave power to the people in society that had none. It always humbled those who were in positions of power while asserting the humanity of those who had been affected by the abuse of power. I mean, take the woman caught in the … [Read more...]

A new recipe for humble pie

I once read a manifesto by the anti-feminist True Women Movement that stated as one of its points: Selfish insistence on personal rights is contrary to the spirit of Christ who humbled Himself, took on the form of a servant, and laid down His life for us. Though I cringe when I read this now, I once thought the same thing about humility. To be humble, I mustn't assert my right to anything. Humility meant viewing myself as I was taught to believe God viewed me (without Jesus' intervention of … [Read more...]

Dan Cathy’s lifestyle.

  A week and a half after the infamous Chick-fil-A Day, this quote by Rick Warren is still making it's rounds on the internets. Our culture has accepted two huge lies. The first is that if you disagree with someone's lifestyle, you must fear them or hate them. The second is that to love someone means you agree with everything they believe or do. Both are nonsense. You don't have to compromise convictions to be compassionate. It's been a couple of years since I actually held the conviction … [Read more...]

Intangible Christianity

I was raised to believe that salvation was a shadow of things to come. An image of an otherworldly kingdom that could never be realized (even in part) on earth. Jesus' death on the cross was an ethereal magic trick... ...that somehow, in some way washed away our sins. But our sins were still here.  We still sinned. That didn't matter. They were washed away in the realm of the almighty. Covered somehow by a metaphorical river of blood. This was always explained as a "great mystery." … [Read more...]

Mother-Father God

I'm still reading through Sexism and God-Talk by Rosemary Radford Ruether, and seriously, y'all, this book is breathing new life into my dying faith. There's another quote I'd like to share with you all today because it feels particularly relevant to my life. Ruether is continuing her discussion of images of God--whether they reinforce existing hierarchies that oppress the weak and thus become idolatrous, or whether they empower the oppressed of society to find freedom by asserting that God … [Read more...]


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