What “Love and Respect” and “Fireproof” Teach Abusers and their Victims

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Content Note: Descriptions of Abuse, Abuse ApologismEver since we started dating, my husband Abe has been trying to talk me into watching the movie Fireproof with him. No, not because he thought it would help our relationship, but because he insisted that it was one of the funniest movies I'd ever see. A couple of weeks ago, we finally rented the DVD at Family Video (yes, those still exist), and he was right. It was pretty hilarious--in the same way that Troll 2 and Jaws The Revenge are h … [Read more...]

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Dig Deep: Beyond Lean In by bell hooks Sandberg’s work would not have captured the attention of progressives, particularly men, if she had not packaged the message of “lets go forward and work as equals within white male corporate elites” in the wrapping paper of feminism. Unsafe Spaces by Mikki Kendall  Does that mean that there is no good solution? No. Should abusers get help? Absolutely. Can they heal? Again, absolutely. I certainly think that the cycle can be broken. But their healing can’ … [Read more...]

Privilege in Christian Pacifism: Privileged Pacifism’s Worldview Problem

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This is my fourth, and final (probably...for now at least) piece on some of the problems that unevaluated privilege can cause in Christian pacifist movements. I’m linking this series up to h00die_R’s synchroblog on the topic–The New Pacifism. Be sure to check out my other posts here,  here, and here. Content Note: Discussion of Hugo Schwyzer, John Howard Yoder, sexual abuse, and abuse apologyOver the past few weeks at my church, my pastor--Julian Davies--has been going through a series of … [Read more...]

Privilege in Christian Pacifism: What Counts as Violence?

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This is my third piece in a series about the problems that privilege brings to Christian pacifist movements. I'm linking this series up to h00die_R's synchroblog on the topic--The New Pacifism. Be sure to check out the other posts in my series here, and here. I've already talked about privileged pacifism's tendency to take scenarios where violence might occur and treat them as thought exercises where they can fantasize about how they'd respond to that violence. I mentioned in this post that … [Read more...]

Embodied Faith is a Faith I Can Live With

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Today, I'm guest posting at Suzannah Paul's blog on the topic of Embodied Faith. This is a really important topic to me--the idea that my faith matters to my body and to the experiences I have in my body has been so healing and freeing for me. So, I hope you'll check out my post and the other posts in Suzannah's series on Embodied Faith!Here's a quick preview: What theological insight can I gain from my body and from my bodily experiences?In my depression, I can meet with the suffering … [Read more...]

Privilege in Christian Pacifism: Fight the Systems, Not the Survivors

This is the second post in a short series I've been working on about the problems that privilege brings in Christian pacifist circles. The first post can be found here. I'm also linking this post up to the Political Jesus synchroblog--The New Pacifism.In my last post on pacifism, I discussed the tendency of many privileged pacifists to shame survivors who do not react to abuse in "approved" non-violent ways. I wrote about how it's dehumanizing to hear people who admittedly probably won't … [Read more...]

Privilege in Christian Pacifism: My Life is Not Your Thought Exercise

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I wrote this post a few days ago and had it scheduled for today, but since h00die_R is hosting a synchroblog at Political Jesus on the topic of pacifism, I thought I'd link up! Check it out and see if you'd be interested in participating. I've been thinking about pacifism lately. It's come up in my church, in Twitter discussions, and in blog posts. This is not a response specifically to any recent discussions of pacifism, but since it keeps coming up I do want to let out some of the thoughts … [Read more...]

I watched John Piper and Douglas Wilson Talk About “Homosexuality, Abortion, and Race” for TWO HOURS

(Update: Now with 100% more Ron Swanson gifs, inspired by my Facebook friend Neal)Pray for me, friends. I shall need a few days to recover from this.A couple of weeks ago, I discovered that Douglas Wilson and John Piper  did a roundtable on the topics of "homosexuality, abortion, and race." I don't know what possessed me to do this, but I watched the dang thing, and I shared some choice quotes on Twitter yesterday.Much of this video was John Piper trying to excuse Douglas … [Read more...]

On Being A “Liberal Fundamentalist”

Lately I've noticed that many liberal Christians do this thing where they accuse other liberal Christians of being "liberal fundamentalists." Are these accusations of "liberal fundamentalism" warranted?I'm thinking back over the times when I or a friend of mine has been called a "liberal fundamentalist:"When I asked a popular Christian blogger to stop repeatedly using a slur. When a queer friend criticized the organization NALT because of Dan Savage's (who has a history of biphobia, … [Read more...]

Resurrection and the Surviving God

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Content Note: brief description of a suicide attempt This past year, around Easter, I planned on writing some posts about crucifixion and resurrection. I found I couldn't really get past the former. I mean, I'm a skeptic on the idea of the literal resurrection of Jesus to begin with, but I found I couldn't even envision a risen God. A victorious living God.A suffering God? A dying God? An oppressed God? Yeah, I could see that. I could see that clearly. In fact, writing about the … [Read more...]


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