“You Are Not Your Own” Series: On Hostile and Benevolent Sexism

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This post is part of a series called“You Are Not Your Own,” focusing on rape and sexual assault in Christian relationship/dating books.Trigger Warning for rape, sexual assault, and victim blamingNote: this research mainly focused on female rape, so I am not sure if the same trends toward rape myth acceptance would apply in cases of male rape. If anyone wants to see if research has been done on that subject and report back, feel free. Though it is not the focus of my project, male rape is … [Read more...]

On glittery boobs and translating clothing into meaning

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Trigger Warnings on this post and the links in it for rape and violence against oppressed groupsUPDATE: I've closed the comments section for this post because I don't even wanna know what's going on down there anymore! Everybody (including myself) be accusing everybody of everything, and no one is discussing the actual content anymore. Anyone who still wants to chat can pack it up and move it to Twitter.Today I read a post on the blog  Rage Against the Minivan (which I don't read … [Read more...]

Is there room for other perspectives in the evangelical conversation against purity culture?

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Today, @mslooola, who I follow on the Twitters (#FF her for more great tweets on the topic, by the way--can I do #FF on a blog? Is that cheating?), tweeted her thoughts on the recent trend of evangelicals calling out Purity Culture:Now, I have a lot of friends/acquaintances who are evangelical, who are speaking out against purity culture, and whose sexual ethic (regardless of their personal convictions on when you should have sex) revolves around consent, and respect for others' autonomy … [Read more...]

On gaslighting.

Trigger Warning: Verbal Abuse, GaslightingHe called me a slut.I remember it so clearly because it was so shocking. I was sixteen, and almost pathetically naive about sex, yet he called me a slut.My own father.I held onto that word, let it shape what I thought of myself. Let it fertilize my anger and bitterness toward my dad. I never talked to him about it, because he never admitted to doing anything wrong. He'd tell me I was crazy. But one day it just came out, years later, when … [Read more...]

What is a Rape Myth?

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This post is part of a series called "You Are Not Your Own," focusing on rape and sexual assault in Christian relationship/dating books.Trigger Warning for Rape, Sexual Assault, and Victim Blaming AttitudesWhen I first started contemplating my research project, I thought I'd focus on rape myths. I thought I'd get a list of rape myths, read through the books I'd chosen to read for this study (Real Marriage by Mark and Grace Driscoll, I Kissed Dating Goodbye, by Joshua Harris, When God … [Read more...]

Tony Jones, Peter Rollins, and the trend of “don’t call me racist!”

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I've noticed a trend among white, straight, academic cis men in so-called progressive or emergent Christianity where calling someone racist, sexist, homophobic, etc. is a bigger problem than the existence of racism, sexism, and homophobia.Emergent Christianity is a broad term, and progressive an even broader one, so I don't speak about all people from all movements that use these words to define themselves. I want to make that clear before I move on, because I appreciate and benefit from … [Read more...]

Elizabeth Smart, chewed gum, roses, cars, and me.

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Trigger Warning for Rape, Sexual Assault, and "Slut Shaming"As you may have seen, this storyabout rescued kidnapping survivor Elizabeth Smart has been making the rounds on the internet. Smart said she "felt so dirty and so filthy" after she was raped by her captor, and she understands why someone wouldn't run "because of that alone." Smart spoke at a Johns Hopkins human trafficking forum, saying she was raised in a religious household and recalled a school teacher who spoke once about … [Read more...]

New blog series on Patheos!

In case you missed yesterday's announcement, this blog has moved to the Patheos blogging network! I'll be posting updates here for awhile to redirect people over there, but you may want to head over to http://www.patheos.com/blogs/sarahoverthemoon/ and sign up for email updates if you want to keep in touch in the long run! I hope to see you over there, because I'm starting a new series called "You Are Not Your Own" in which I'll be sharing the results of some research that I've done on rape and s … [Read more...]

New Series on Rape and Sexual Assault in Christian Dating Books: “You Are Not Your Own”

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If you're a regular reader from my old address at SarahOverTheMoon.com, or if you follow me on social media (and if you don't, check out my Facebook page and Twitter account!), you've probably heard me about a research project that I've been working on since January for my undergraduate capstone. I've been reading Christian dating books and analyzing the messages that they send (or fail to send) about rape, sexual assault, and consent. My project is called "You Are Not Your Own: Rape, Sexual … [Read more...]

God is not really a king.

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I've been thinking a lot about my deepest held images of God: why do I hold them? Where do they come from? What do they say about the Christian faith I was raised in? What do they say about me? How do they hold me back? Or how could they possibly be liberating?I used to be afraid to think about images of God. I used to think that if there were no more images of God, God would disappear for me.Yet, personal religious experiences that I've had recently have changed my mind.I believe … [Read more...]


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