What is a Rape Myth?

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This post is part of a series called "You Are Not Your Own," focusing on rape and sexual assault in Christian relationship/dating books. Trigger Warning for Rape, Sexual Assault, and Victim Blaming Attitudes When I first started contemplating my research project, I thought I'd focus on rape myths. I thought I'd get a list of rape myths, read through the books I'd chosen to read for this study (Real Marriage by Mark and Grace Driscoll, I Kissed Dating Goodbye, by Joshua Harris, When God … [Read more...]

Tony Jones, Peter Rollins, and the trend of “don’t call me racist!”

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I've noticed a trend among white, straight, academic cis men in so-called progressive or emergent Christianity where calling someone racist, sexist, homophobic, etc. is a bigger problem than the existence of racism, sexism, and homophobia. Emergent Christianity is a broad term, and progressive an even broader one, so I don't speak about all people from all movements that use these words to define themselves. I want to make that clear before I move on, because I appreciate and benefit from … [Read more...]

Elizabeth Smart, chewed gum, roses, cars, and me.

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Trigger Warning for Rape, Sexual Assault, and "Slut Shaming" As you may have seen, this storyabout rescued kidnapping survivor Elizabeth Smart has been making the rounds on the internet. Smart said she "felt so dirty and so filthy" after she was raped by her captor, and she understands why someone wouldn't run "because of that alone." Smart spoke at a Johns Hopkins human trafficking forum, saying she was raised in a religious household and recalled a school teacher who spoke once about … [Read more...]

New blog series on Patheos!

In case you missed yesterday's announcement, this blog has moved to the Patheos blogging network! I'll be posting updates here for awhile to redirect people over there, but you may want to head over to http://www.patheos.com/blogs/sarahoverthemoon/ and sign up for email updates if you want to keep in touch in the long run! I hope to see you over there, because I'm starting a new series called "You Are Not Your Own" in which I'll be sharing the results of some research that I've done on rape … [Read more...]

New Series on Rape and Sexual Assault in Christian Dating Books: “You Are Not Your Own”

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If you're a regular reader from my old address at SarahOverTheMoon.com, or if you follow me on social media (and if you don't, check out my Facebook page and Twitter account!), you've probably heard me about a research project that I've been working on since January for my undergraduate capstone. I've been reading Christian dating books and analyzing the messages that they send (or fail to send) about rape, sexual assault, and consent. My project is called "You Are Not Your Own: Rape, Sexual … [Read more...]

God is not really a king.

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I've been thinking a lot about my deepest held images of God: why do I hold them? Where do they come from? What do they say about the Christian faith I was raised in? What do they say about me? How do they hold me back? Or how could they possibly be liberating? I used to be afraid to think about images of God. I used to think that if there were no more images of God, God would disappear for me. Yet, personal religious experiences that I've had recently have changed my mind. I believe … [Read more...]

Guest Post for Alise Write

Hi friends! My research project is done, my exams are finished, and (though I still have a few summer classes to take) I'll be walking in the Oakland University graduation ceremony at 4 pm today. I think it's time I start blogging again. So, let's mark my triumphant return with a guest post for the wonderful Alise Write! I've written for Alise about how I've navigated my relationship with my fiance, Abe, as we both travel along in our individual faith journeys. When I first met my fiancé, … [Read more...]

The cross and radical activism

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The idea that Jesus chose, out of his own free will, to go to the cross is a favorite among abusive church leaders. What better way to get people to submit to you than to compare the God they worship to a lamb led to slaughter? Over and over and over I've heard Jesus' submissiveness unto death used as an excuse to abuse or to silence those who wish to call out abuse. I want to propose a different perspective and I want to start with a woman named Alice Paul. In 1917, women in the United … [Read more...]

Crucifixion and Liberation

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[Trigger warnings for abuse, rape, and violence against oppressed groups] I recently wrote a blog post for Rachel Held Evans in which I talked about how many popular images of God are abusive. Someone left this comment: I read something once -and it has troubled me since - that God requiring Jesus to die on the cross 'for our sins' was the equivalent of child abuse. I would love to hear some opinions on this matter. A few commenters jumped in to say that since Jesus IS God, it was a … [Read more...]

Spiritual Abuse Awareness Week: Violences are Connected

Back in February, Sen. Marco Rubio explained why he opposed the Violence Against Women Act: I could not support the final, entire legislation that contains new provisions that could have potentially adverse consequences. Specifically, this bill would mandate the diversion of a portion of funding from domestic violence programs to sexual assault programs. Rubio has this idea, apparently, that different types of abuse have nothing to do with one another. Not a surprising conclusion in a world … [Read more...]


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