Last Valentine’s Day…

Last Valentine's Day was hard.I had had plans, of course. I was going to continue the tradition that my boyfriend and I had started two years earlier where we give each other President's Day cards instead of Valentine's Day cards. The card was still sitting in my desk drawer. It said, "You baRACK! You're da oBAMa!"But now the plans were cancelled because there was no one to give the stupid card to anymore and the student union was rubbing it in my face with all the hearts on the walls that … [Read more...]

Join the chorus: Teri’s story

A few days ago, I invited my readers to help me speak out against abuse. To be a choir of voices  for the voiceless (if you would like to be a voice, read my post "Join the chorus" for more information).Teri J responded to my post and gave me permission to share her story of emotional and mental abuse. I hope you'll take time to read her story below, and afterward check out her blogs: http://unexpectedroad.blogspot.com/ http://mymostfavoritethings.wordpress.com/.  I am a victim of emot … [Read more...]

Why do you know your limitations?

"I can't do that," a friend of mine said to me recently. "I know my limitations."I've heard that phrase many times. "I know my limitations."But my question to anyone who has uttered those four words is this: why do you know your limitations?Do you know your limitations because you put them there? Did you hand pick the bricks to build up the walls you've put around your life?Or, do you know your limitations because you've been to them? Because you've tested them and pushed them?Do you … [Read more...]

Words bruise

As I've discussed in several of my posts lately, my first boyfriend was abusive.He didn't hit me very often (in fact, I only remember him hitting me once). He didn't need to. He could bench press 300 lbs, so I was just a rag doll to him. He pushed me around, threw me into things, or picked me up and shook me when he was angry. If I tried to run away, he would grab my arm so tightly that it would leave bruises in the shape of his hand.Those things hurt. They hurt badly. And the bruises were … [Read more...]

Love by leaving

How do you love a boyfriend that abuses you? How do you treat an abusive girlfriend like Jesus would treat her? How do you forgive a person without letting him/her hurt you again?Ever since I broke up with my abusive first boyfriend five years ago, I've been searching for answers to this question.If I had treated him better...If I had stayed with him longer...If I hadn't responded with violence at the end (our break up involved me punching him in the face out of … [Read more...]

I’m ready to be a voice (I think)

I don't always finish what I start. About two weeks ago, I promised a series on the good and bad of Disney Princess movies.  But I never  finished writing even one post besides the introduction.Perhaps someday I'll pick the series up again, but at this point I have lost interest. I quit because I got stuck. I had ideas. I even made an outline (and I never do that). But the first movie that I planned on analyzing, Beauty and the Beast, hit much too close to home.The "bad" that I was going … [Read more...]

Why I Shouldn’t Write (According to Me)

Writing is hard work sometimes...Like right now, for instance.I've always felt called by God to write. That's my part right now in this race that we call the Christian life. But I must admit that I've spent most of my life on the sidelines. Why?Because I made too many excuses.But lately, as I've been pondering these excuses, and as I've been reading advice from writers that I look up to, I've been learning something. Most excuses aren't legitimate.These are my 5 most commonly used … [Read more...]


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