Esther, Mark Driscoll, and using rape to control women

 [Trigger warning for rape apologism and Mark Driscoll quotes]Growing up, the book of Esther was always my favorite because it featured two very brave women.First, there was Vashti. I've loved Vashti ever since a grade school teacher came to class dressed up as Vashti and told us the story about how she had been exiled by the king because she asserted herself and refused to dance for the king's drunken friends. She was a brave woman who claimed her body as her own--rather than her t … [Read more...]

Is patriarchy idolatry?

I've been reading feminist theology lately and learning to view Christianity from angles that I never even imagined. Take, for example, this quote from Rosemary Radford Ruether's Sexism and God-Talk:  Israel is to make no...graven image of God; no pictorial or verbal representation of God can be taken literally. By contrast, Christian sculpture and painting represents God as a powerful old man with a white beard, even crowned and robed in the insignia of human kings or the triple tiara of the p … [Read more...]

Rape: A Punishment for Egalitarians?

[Trigger warnings for rape and abuse] Sometimes, conservative Christians are able to cover up the fact that their bad theology is often used to enable abusers, cover up abuse, and blame victims. Then, sometimes, they slip and people see everything and their attempts to convince people that they do not condone abuse seem laughable.This is what happened today when Jared Wilson of The Gospel Coalition published this article, a critique of 50 Shades of Gray which consists of a quote from a book b … [Read more...]

No Experience Necessary?

If you wanted an expert opinion on something, usually you'd ask someone with experience on the subject. If you wanted parenting advice, you'd probably ask someone who was a parent, not someone who babysat their siblings a few times. If you wanted to know what sky-diving was like, you'd probably ask someone who'd been skydiving, not someone who'd watched a video of someone skydiving on YouTube.It just makes sense. Experience gives you an insight into a subject that books and Google cannot … [Read more...]

We teach boys to abuse women. We teach girls that abuse = attraction.

When I was in elementary school, a group of boys in my class liked to pick on me. Sometimes they got really mean, and it bothered me, so I told on them. The teacher I talked to told me that they were "just being boys," and that they were probably doing it "because they like you!"When I was a freshman in college, I went to a church on Father's Day that preached a message about how to raise your sons. The pastor stated that there was something wrong with any boy who plays with Barbie dolls. Not … [Read more...]

Fear or Love?

Growing up in a Fundamental Baptist high school, I heard some ridiculous arguments against feminism. My favorite goes something like this: Feminists secretly hate women! That's right! They hate women, and let me tell you why! They want women to be equal to men. That means, they think women don't need men. Feminists won't let men hold doors open for them or pay for their dates. And they won't let men protect them! Chivalry is DEAD because of feminists. That's right.Oh, and don't forget. Fe … [Read more...]

An Update on Relevant Magazine and Hugo Schwyzer

In case anyone would like an update on the Relevant Magazine/Hugo Schwyzer situation, here are a couple of emails I sent Relevant. I have been asked not to quote their responses on my blog, and I will respect that, so the following are my emails, with brief summaries of the response I got in between. My first email: Dear Relevant Magazine,I write this email hesitantly, because I am expecting to receive condescending pat answers from you, and I don't know how many more of those I can … [Read more...]

Our Mother who art in heaven…

I'm trying this new thing where I don't just think of God as a man. Where I get this image out of my head that God is an old man that looks like Gandalf and has Morgan Freeman's voice. Where I let God out of this box of masculinity that God's been confined to.It's difficult. The images of God that we focus on in the Bible are all quite masculine. God is a Father. God is a King. God as a husband. God is He and Him. And to complicate matters, the preachers that have always told me about God were … [Read more...]

Happy International Women’s Day and Feminist Coming Out Day!

March 8th is an exciting day! First of all, it's my wonderful partner's 28th birthday (Happy Birthday, Abe!). Second, it's National Colon Cleansing Day (Remember! A clean colon is a happy colon).And then, it's International Women's Day and Feminist Coming Out Day!As much as I love Abe and colons, this post is going to focus on the latter two.When I first "came out" as a feminist about a year ago, I got a lot of responses. Some positive, some discouraging. But, I think, by far the most … [Read more...]

Women matter.

I was at a rock concert last week and a stranger felt me up. I froze for several seconds--couldn't breathe, couldn't move as those hands moved up and down my waist. Finally, I found the courage to elbow the person in the stomach. Then, I went to the bathroom and cried and ended up missing half of The Darkness singing "Love on the Rocks with No Ice."But a week later, I can still feel those hands. Every time I sit down to write. Every time I look in the mirror. Every time I have a positive … [Read more...]


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