Love and the mystery of men and women

I've been reading bell hook's book All About Love: New Visions. In it, she stresses the importance of defining love so that we can't be controlled by abusive people who claim to love us. She borrows her definition of love from M. Scott Peck: "the will to extend one's self for the purpose of nurturing one's own or another's spiritual growth...Love is as love does. Love is an act of will--namely, both an intention and an action."  hooks later discusses our culture's reluctance to define … [Read more...]

What makes a good daddy–A guest post by Abe Kobylanski

I'm going to be publishing a couple of guest posts this week from some great people! Today, we have Abraham Kobylanski with a belated Father's Day post, and tomorrow, I'll be publishing an article by Travis Mamone. Enjoy! Author bio for Abraham: Abe Kobylanski works at a newspaper like it's going out of style (it is!). He's currently between religious beliefs. In his spare time, he has a blog of his own at abekoby.wordpress.com. I've been told that our dear friend, Mark Driscoll recently said … [Read more...]

Fear or Love?

Growing up in a Fundamental Baptist high school, I heard some ridiculous arguments against feminism. My favorite goes something like this: Feminists secretly hate women! That's right! They hate women, and let me tell you why! They want women to be equal to men. That means, they think women don't need men. Feminists won't let men hold doors open for them or pay for their dates. And they won't let men protect them! Chivalry is DEAD because of feminists. That's right. Oh, and don't forget. … [Read more...]

Last Valentine’s Day…

Last Valentine's Day was hard. I had had plans, of course. I was going to continue the tradition that my boyfriend and I had started two years earlier where we give each other President's Day cards instead of Valentine's Day cards. The card was still sitting in my desk drawer. It said, "You baRACK! You're da oBAMa!" But now the plans were cancelled because there was no one to give the stupid card to anymore and the student union was rubbing it in my face with all the hearts on the walls that … [Read more...]

My deepest, darkest secret

As long-time readers of my blog (you folks are awesome!) already know, I've dedicated this blog to saying the things that the Church is afraid to say--to being brutally honest about my own struggles and mistakes and life choices. I haven't held much back. But I've got to be real with you all today. I've been hiding something. Something that I've been too proud to talk about. But it's time for pride to go before a fall... It's time for the truth to come out. Alright...deep breath...here … [Read more...]

Sometimes I believe Mark Driscoll.

I'm sorry my writing has been so sporadic lately. I've been busy with school and I've been fighting off a particularly bad bout of depression for a few weeks now. I'll try to write as often as I can, but I need the extra rest lately. Thanks for understanding!  A couple of weeks ago, Mark Driscoll decided to preach a sermon telling people, "Some of you, God hates you," and I decided to forgive him for that. I wrote a post in which I decided that I was going to show God's love by loving Mark … [Read more...]

God loves Mark Driscoll (and everyone else)

God is love. God doesn't hate anyone. God poured his wrath on on Himself, because He loved us too make us drink that cup. Mark Driscoll needs to be reminded of that. But, you know what? So do I. Sometimes I get this idea in my head that God hates all the same people I hate. Sometimes I believe that God hates Mark Driscoll. I won't lie-- Mark Driscoll isn't my favorite person in the world. For one, he glorifies a part of me that I hate-- the violent, angry part of me that I've been trying … [Read more...]

How Kittums, Smeagol, and Princess Buttercup taught me to love

Please read this article by Ben DeVries on Kurt Williams blog. It has a wonderful, beautiful point, and adorable animals. You can't lose. Read it! http://www.patheos.com/blogs/thepangeablog/2011/09/14/the-nonviolence-of-the-kingdom-towards-animals-ben-devries/  This post of mine is a response of sorts. I'm an animal lover. There's no denying it. If you don't believe me, check out my Facebook page. Chances are, my profile picture currently has at least one cat in it. I love animals. It's … [Read more...]

Tension redeemed: Pacifism

War, war, what is it good for? ...I don't really know. I'm opening up my series on tension and doubt (read the intro here) with the subject of pacifism. I consider myself a pacifist, but I can't answer all the questions people ask me when they find out that I am a supporter of non-violence. So, here's what I know: Jesus said, "Love your enemies." Killing a person isn't very loving. Violence almost always leads to more violence.  Paul told us to "overcome evil with good." Until … [Read more...]

Sometimes when I think of Grammar, I think of Love.

"You complete me." "You're my missing puzzle piece." "I need you." "I'm nothing without you" Are these really the kinds of phrases that should be associated with true love? When society puts so much emphasis on romantic relationships, it's easy to build all of our confidence on these relationships. Then when they fall apart, we are left feeling empty, incomplete, broken. When we can't find a romantic relationship, we feel that our lives are missing something. I think that the healthiest … [Read more...]


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