Modest Is Hottest: A Guest Post for No Shame Movement

Today, I'm over at No Shame Movement sharing my story about growing up in Christian purity culture. Check it out! Also, be sure to read the other stories at NSM, and follow No Shame Movement on Twitter! “What would happen if I bought this shirt three sizes too small?” I joked to my sister, as we waited for my mom to finish up her shopping at the Christian bookstore. The shirt in question was a woman’s tee shirt with the words “Modest Is Hottest” across the front.The sizes seemed to line up w … [Read more...]

Stealing Sexy Calendars isn’t Jesus, and it isn’t Radical.

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On December 4th, the editors at Jesus Radicals chose to publish a post that left me baffled for awhile. I had to read it multiple times to make sure it wasn't a joke, and double check the website to make sure I hadn't accidentally ended up on a satire site.But nope. This post was real life. It shared an anonymous woman's story of walking past a calendar kiosk, seeing those sexy calendars that feature a different woman in a bikini each month, and getting angry at the objectification of … [Read more...]

I don’t know, why do you tell your daughters to dress modestly?

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Trigger Warning for Modesty Culture B.S. and Benevolent Sexism. Also, I used more swear words than usually because I just can't even.When I read the piece on Christianity Today's women's blog entitled "Why I Tell My Daughters to Dress Modestly," my first response was "Because of benevolent sexism?"I've been talking about benevolent vs. hostile sexism on my blog a lot lately, and how often, people who adhere to benevolent sexist mindsets don't think of themselves as sexists. They look … [Read more...]

“You Are Not Your Own:” Women are objects, or weaker animals

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This post is part of a series called“You Are Not Your Own,” focusing on rape and sexual assault in Christian relationship/dating booksTrigger Warning for rape, sexual assault, victim blaming, sexismNote: this research mainly focused on female rape. Though it is not the focus of my project, male rape is a huge problem as well–1 out of every 10 rape victims is male. I wanted to make it clear that, despite the focus of my study, it is not only women (and definitely not only cisgender women) … [Read more...]

“You Are Not Your Own:” Men Are Animals

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This post is part of a series called“You Are Not Your Own,” focusing on rape and sexual assault in Christian relationship/dating booksTrigger Warning for rape, sexual assault, victim blaming, sexismNote: this research mainly focused on female rape. Though it is not the focus of my project, male rape is a huge problem as well–1 out of every 10 rape victims is male. I wanted to make it clear that, despite the focus of my study, it is not only women (and definitely not only cisgender women) … [Read more...]

On glittery boobs and translating clothing into meaning

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Trigger Warnings on this post and the links in it for rape and violence against oppressed groupsUPDATE: I've closed the comments section for this post because I don't even wanna know what's going on down there anymore! Everybody (including myself) be accusing everybody of everything, and no one is discussing the actual content anymore. Anyone who still wants to chat can pack it up and move it to Twitter.Today I read a post on the blog  Rage Against the Minivan (which I don't read … [Read more...]

On being a female body at a Christian college

[I wrote recently about learning to love my body for Lent. Part of that loving so far has involved some deep contemplation about where the fear and hatred come from. And I've realized something.Part of my body hatred, and by extension part of my self hatred, comes from the fact that oppressive people have used my female body  to justifying oppressing me.I hate my body and myself because, deep down, I blame my body (and thus myself) for the ways in which I've been hurt by others.Two e … [Read more...]

Loving my body for Lent

As a former fundamental Baptist, this is only my second year of observing Lent. Lent, when I was growing up, was one of those things that Catholics do because they don't really believe in Jesus (I don't think most Baptist preachers actually know any Catholics) and so they are enslaved to law and to rules and boundaries.I thought, as a Baptist, that I was so lucky to not be enslaved to rules like those Catholics were.Funny, considering the fact that when I was thinking this, I likely had on … [Read more...]

Objects don’t have sex

I didn't watch the Superbowl, this year (or...any year) but conversations about Beyoncé's halftime show caught my eye. On one hand, many felt that Beyoncé's display of all-women power and sexuality was inspiring and empowering. David Henson even went so far as to call it prophetic (and I agree): It was a dance of defiance.For 14 minutes, women were owned by no one. Instead, for those few prophetic and powerful minutes, Beyoncé and the women onstage with her owned the night.Last night, men, mi … [Read more...]

Unseduced and Unshaken: A Book Review

   The following is a book review of Rosalie de Rosset's book, Unseduced and Unshaken: The Place of Dignity in a Young Woman's Choices. I've been given a copy of the book to give to one of my readers, so if you're interested in a free book, leave a comment!  When I first began reading Unseduced and Unshaken (which one of my twitter followers joked sounded like what you'd get when you played a James Bond film backwards), though there were a few aspects of it that made … [Read more...]


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