No, We’re Not All On The Same Side

"Why are you arguing with me? We're on the same side!" I've heard this a lot, from so many different groups--from feminists, from Christians, from progressives/liberals, and from LGBTQ circles.It's often accompanied by similar phrases like, "Let's focus on the real enemy here," and "We're wasting our energy infighting!"It's interesting how many people from how many different groups assume I'm on "their side."I don't like this phrase.I don't think everyone who uses it has ma … [Read more...]

#Marissa418: White Feminists, It’s Time To Question Our Trust In The Police

Carceral feminism tells us that the state is capable of reform and pushed women to rely on state services for protection from gender violence, despite the state being the biggest perpetrator of gender violence both here and abroad. Focusing on the safety of white women has led to policies such as Stop-and-Frisk and Stand Your Ground laws that have led to criminalization of people of color. We truly can not expect a system of violence to be the solution for ending violence. Prison abolition is … [Read more...]

Why Do We Blame The Victim?: We Want To Control Others’ Behavior

This is my third, and final post in a series I’ve been doing about victim blaming. Why, as a society, do we tend to blame victims of terrible or unfortunate circumstances for the bad things that happen to them, as if it is their fault?My church has been covering this topic in it’s latest sermon series (which you can listen to online). Also, I’ve been taking a seminary class on the Psalms and Wisdom Literature, which contain some interesting, and often contradictory messages about victim blami … [Read more...]

Why Do We Blame the Victim?: We Don’t Want to Face Our Responsibility and Privilege

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This is post number two in a series I'm working on about why we tend to blame victims in our society. My church has been covering this topic in it's latest sermon series (which you can listen to online). Also, I've been taking a seminary class on the Psalms and Wisdom Literature, which contain some interesting, and often contradictory messages about victim blaming.In my first post in this series, I discussed one possible reason for why we blame victims: We are afraid of a world outside of … [Read more...]

#PlanetCCM: Relient K And Using CCM To Sell Sexism

This the cover of the book "The Complex Infrastructure Known as the Female Mind," designed by Margaret Pesek, with photo by Dave Johnson. Found at Christianbook.com

Content Note: Victim Blaming, Body ShamingDianna E. Anderson is hosting a synchroblog this week about contemporary Christian music (CCM) and how it affected the lives of those who grew up with it. I've already written one post on the subject explaining that, because of my ultra conservative upbringing, I wasn't the world's largest CCM fan. Relient K was one of only two Christian bands that I ever ended up liking (Five Iron Frenzy being the other). I have a special place in my heart for them s … [Read more...]

Love And R-E-S-P-E-C-T

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As regular readers know, I've recently read the Christian marriage book, Love and Respect (which was supposed to be included in my "You Are Not Your Own" series, but had to be cut due to time constraints), and have been discussing it here in blog posts and on Twitter.The big theme of the book--the one from which the title is derived--is author Dr. Emerson Eggerichs' theory that a man's primary need is respect, and a woman's primary need is love. Eggerichs' believes women need to learn how to … [Read more...]

Privilege in Christian Pacifism: What Counts as Violence?

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This is my third piece in a series about the problems that privilege brings to Christian pacifist movements. I'm linking this series up to h00die_R's synchroblog on the topic--The New Pacifism. Be sure to check out the other posts in my series here, and here. I've already talked about privileged pacifism's tendency to take scenarios where violence might occur and treat them as thought exercises where they can fantasize about how they'd respond to that violence. I mentioned in this post that … [Read more...]

I watched John Piper and Douglas Wilson Talk About “Homosexuality, Abortion, and Race” for TWO HOURS

(Update: Now with 100% more Ron Swanson gifs, inspired by my Facebook friend Neal)Pray for me, friends. I shall need a few days to recover from this.A couple of weeks ago, I discovered that Douglas Wilson and John Piper  did a roundtable on the topics of "homosexuality, abortion, and race." I don't know what possessed me to do this, but I watched the dang thing, and I shared some choice quotes on Twitter yesterday.Much of this video was John Piper trying to excuse Douglas … [Read more...]

Must Reads!

Princess Buttercup, making a yawn by Sam Moon

Here are some important and/or interesting recent posts from around the blogosphere. Also, as always, I will include an adorable picture of one of my cats. Enjoy!"A Statement of Trans-Inclusive Feminism and Womanism" by Feminists Fighting Transphobia What we all have in common is the conviction that feminism should welcome trans* people, and that trans* people are essential to feminism’s mission to advocate for women and other people oppressed, exploited, and otherwise marginalized by pa … [Read more...]

“You Are Not Your Own:” When Metaphors For Sex Sound A Lot Like Like Rape

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This post is part of a series called“You Are Not Your Own,” focusing on rape and sexual assault in Christian relationship/dating booksContent Note: rape, sexual assault, violent imagery, discussion of colonialism/imperialismWe're getting toward the end of my series on rape and sexual assault in evangelical Christian dating books (Dateable, I Kissed Dating Goodbye, Real Marriage, and When God Writes Your Love Story). If you need to catch up, you can find older posts here. Here are the … [Read more...]


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