The Answer To Sexual Shame is Not MORE Sexual Shame, Carson T. Clark

[Content Note: Sexual and Spiritual Abuse] When I was 16, I dated an abuser who was constantly coercing me into having sex with him. I had been raised in fundamentalist purity culture, so I thought of sex as something gross and scary. My boyfriend at the time tried to combat those feelings by sending me on guilt trips and by holding me to his manipulative, subjective standards of "responsibility." He'd say things like, "You hugging me turned me on. You're a horrible person if you turn a … [Read more...]

Why I’d Choose Conservative Christianity Over Amanda Marcotte’s Feminism

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[Content Note: Rape, Victim Blaming, Unjust Arrest] This Monday, popular feminist writer Amanda Marcotte wrote a decent piece for Salon, describing victim blaming in conservative Christianity. In it, she pointed out that in many conservative Christian circles... "...[m]en’s choices, especially men’s sexual choices, are the responsibility of women. So if a man chooses to rape you, it’s understood not as him asserting dominance over you, but as the man taking the liberties you must … [Read more...]

Not So Fast, The Daily Beast: The Radical Act of Trusting Children

Content Note: Discussion of sexual assault, victim blaming This is my second piece in response to an article published on The Daily Beast by Robert B. Weide. My first piece on this topic can be found here.  In my first response to Robert B. Weide's defense of Woody Allen, I pointed out that Weide spent much of his piece painting Mia Farrow as an "unacceptable" woman. I pointed out how his framing of Mia's consensual, adult sex life as "deviant" was used to discredit Dylan Farrow's account … [Read more...]

Not So Fast, The Daily Beast: On Rape Myths and Those Slutty, Gossipy Women

Content Note: Discussion of sexual assault, victim blaming This is a response to a piece published on The Daily Beast by Robert B. Weide. It will likely be the first of two or three posts on the topic, so stay tuned for further thoughts.  On February 1st, Dylan Farrow penned an open letter about her adopted father, director Woody Allen: What’s your favorite Woody Allen movie? Before you answer, you should know: when I was seven years old, Woody Allen took me by the hand and led me into … [Read more...]

#PlanetCCM: Relient K And Using CCM To Sell Sexism

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Content Note: Victim Blaming, Body Shaming Dianna E. Anderson is hosting a synchroblog this week about contemporary Christian music (CCM) and how it affected the lives of those who grew up with it. I've already written one post on the subject explaining that, because of my ultra conservative upbringing, I wasn't the world's largest CCM fan. Relient K was one of only two Christian bands that I ever ended up liking (Five Iron Frenzy being the other). I have a special place in my heart for … [Read more...]

Privilege in Christian Pacifism: Privileged Pacifism’s Worldview Problem

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This is my fourth, and final (probably...for now at least) piece on some of the problems that unevaluated privilege can cause in Christian pacifist movements. I’m linking this series up to h00die_R’s synchroblog on the topic–The New Pacifism. Be sure to check out my other posts here,  here, and here.  Content Note: Discussion of Hugo Schwyzer, John Howard Yoder, sexual abuse, and abuse apology Over the past few weeks at my church, my pastor--Julian Davies--has been going through … [Read more...]

Privilege in Christian Pacifism: What Counts as Violence?

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This is my third piece in a series about the problems that privilege brings to Christian pacifist movements. I'm linking this series up to h00die_R's synchroblog on the topic--The New Pacifism. Be sure to check out the other posts in my series here, and here.  I've already talked about privileged pacifism's tendency to take scenarios where violence might occur and treat them as thought exercises where they can fantasize about how they'd respond to that violence. I mentioned in this post that … [Read more...]

“You Are Not Your Own:” Wrapping Things Up

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This post is part of a series called“You Are Not Your Own,” focusing on rape and sexual assault in Christian relationship/dating books Content Note: rape, sexual assault We've come to the last post in my series about rape and sexual assault in evangelical Christian dating books. Yup, that's right... ...It's time to kiss dating books goodbye.  To sum up, there were four significant findings related to rape and sexual assault in these books: These books create … [Read more...]

Rape Culture: It’s Not Just For Christian Dating Books!

Content Note: Rape Culture As I wrote my You Are Not Your Own series over the past few months, one of the most frequent response I got was, "[Insert thing that is not a Christian dating book here] does this too!" This is true. Rape culture, benevolent sexism, dehumanization, etc. come from sources, often even from sources that aren't explicitly Christian. Because my series was based on a research project I did, it was very focused on one specific thing, and that one specific thing was … [Read more...]

“You Are Not Your Own:” Is Rape Just Another “Sexual Sin?”

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This post is part of a series called“You Are Not Your Own,” focusing on rape and sexual assault in Christian relationship/dating books Content Note: rape, sexual assault, victim blaming This is the LAST post on the findings of my series on rape and sexual assault in Christian dating books (Dateable, I Kissed Dating Goodbye, Real Marriage, andWhen God Writes Your Love Story). I may have a wrap-up post or two after this, but we're coming near to the end! If you are behind and … [Read more...]