Purity Culture Doesn’t Want Men To Stop Getting Sex: It Wants Women To Stop Getting Power

Yesterday, I stumbled across an interesting blog post by David Murrow of "Church For Men." Interesting in that it is revealing of the way Christian purity culture operates.Purity Culture claims to be an anti-sex movement, but it's really not. As I've pointed out before, in purity culture is often all about sex...in marriage. Just take a gander at Mark Driscoll's infamous "Can We ____?" chapter of his book Real Marriage wherein he extols the virtues of marital sex--even oral sex, anal sex, and … [Read more...]

Why I’d Choose Conservative Christianity Over Amanda Marcotte’s Feminism

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[Content Note: Rape, Victim Blaming, Unjust Arrest]This Monday, popular feminist writer Amanda Marcotte wrote a decent piece for Salon, describing victim blaming in conservative Christianity. In it, she pointed out that in many conservative Christian circles... "...[m]en’s choices, especially men’s sexual choices, are the responsibility of women. So if a man chooses to rape you, it’s understood not as him asserting dominance over you, but as the man taking the liberties you must have extende … [Read more...]

On Bob Jones University, and Letting Survivors Speak

Content Note: Rape, Sexual AssaultGrowing up expecting to go to Bob Jones University today was just another part of life as a member of an IFB (independent fundamental Baptist) church. Unless of course you were one of those heathens who went to Hyles-Anderson. Really, though, if you grew up in the IFB church and school that I grew up in, your options for acceptable colleges were limited. My choices were to go to Maranatha Baptist Bible College, Pensecola Christian College, Northland, or good … [Read more...]

Not So Fast, The Daily Beast: The Radical Act of Trusting Children

Content Note: Discussion of sexual assault, victim blamingThis is my second piece in response to an article published on The Daily Beast by Robert B. Weide. My first piece on this topic can be found here. In my first response to Robert B. Weide's defense of Woody Allen, I pointed out that Weide spent much of his piece painting Mia Farrow as an "unacceptable" woman. I pointed out how his framing of Mia's consensual, adult sex life as "deviant" was used to discredit Dylan Farrow's account … [Read more...]

Not So Fast, The Daily Beast: On Rape Myths and Those Slutty, Gossipy Women

Content Note: Discussion of sexual assault, victim blamingThis is a response to a piece published on The Daily Beast by Robert B. Weide. It will likely be the first of two or three posts on the topic, so stay tuned for further thoughts. On February 1st, Dylan Farrow penned an open letter about her adopted father, director Woody Allen: What’s your favorite Woody Allen movie? Before you answer, you should know: when I was seven years old, Woody Allen took me by the hand and led me into a d … [Read more...]

Can detachment from others serve life?

Calls for empathy and compassion toward oppressors and abusers are popular in American Christianity. I think this is true of a variety of branches of Christianity, although more conservative branches may express this empathy differently from more liberal branches. Not really surprising--after all, Jesus told us to love our enemies. Jesus said "Father, forgive them." Jesus was always being moved with compassion.Empathy and compassion can be great things. But after leaving fundamentalism, I … [Read more...]

“You Are Not Your Own:” Wrapping Things Up

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This post is part of a series called“You Are Not Your Own,” focusing on rape and sexual assault in Christian relationship/dating booksContent Note: rape, sexual assaultWe've come to the last post in my series about rape and sexual assault in evangelical Christian dating books. Yup, that's right......It's time to kiss dating books goodbye. To sum up, there were four significant findings related to rape and sexual assault in these books:These books create an en … [Read more...]

Rape Culture: It’s Not Just For Christian Dating Books!

Content Note: Rape CultureAs I wrote my You Are Not Your Own series over the past few months, one of the most frequent response I got was, "[Insert thing that is not a Christian dating book here] does this too!" This is true. Rape culture, benevolent sexism, dehumanization, etc. come from sources, often even from sources that aren't explicitly Christian.Because my series was based on a research project I did, it was very focused on one specific thing, and that one specific thing was … [Read more...]

“You Are Not Your Own:” Is Rape Just Another “Sexual Sin?”

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This post is part of a series called“You Are Not Your Own,” focusing on rape and sexual assault in Christian relationship/dating booksContent Note: rape, sexual assault, victim blamingThis is the LAST post on the findings of my series on rape and sexual assault in Christian dating books (Dateable, I Kissed Dating Goodbye, Real Marriage, andWhen God Writes Your Love Story). I may have a wrap-up post or two after this, but we're coming near to the end!If you are behind and need to c … [Read more...]

“You Are Not Your Own:” When Metaphors For Sex Sound A Lot Like Like Rape

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This post is part of a series called“You Are Not Your Own,” focusing on rape and sexual assault in Christian relationship/dating booksContent Note: rape, sexual assault, violent imagery, discussion of colonialism/imperialismWe're getting toward the end of my series on rape and sexual assault in evangelical Christian dating books (Dateable, I Kissed Dating Goodbye, Real Marriage, and When God Writes Your Love Story). If you need to catch up, you can find older posts here. Here are the … [Read more...]


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