When my abuser is welcome at the table, I am not.

It's the cool thing in more progressive branches of Christianity now to talk about how EVERYONE is welcome at the communion table. I should be glad about that, I guess. I mostly just serve communion to myself (sometimes a cat or two joins in) while locked in my bedroom nowadays. Not much of a "communion," I know. I'm probably committing all sorts of blasphemy, but that's the best I can do right now. Maybe if I swapped the leftover pizza that I use as the body of Christ for some Zoloft I'd be … [Read more...]

“You Are Not Your Own” Series: On Traditional Gender Roles and Dehumanization

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This post is part of a series called“You Are Not Your Own,” focusing on rape and sexual assault in Christian relationship/dating books Trigger Warning for rape, sexual assault, victim blaming, and dehumanization Note: this research mainly focused on female rape, so I am not sure if the same trends toward rape myth acceptance would apply in cases of male rape. If anyone wants to see if research has been done on that subject and report back, feel free. Though it is not the focus of my … [Read more...]

“You Are Not Your Own” Series: On Hostile and Benevolent Sexism

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This post is part of a series called“You Are Not Your Own,” focusing on rape and sexual assault in Christian relationship/dating books. Trigger Warning for rape, sexual assault, and victim blaming Note: this research mainly focused on female rape, so I am not sure if the same trends toward rape myth acceptance would apply in cases of male rape. If anyone wants to see if research has been done on that subject and report back, feel free. Though it is not the focus of my project, male … [Read more...]

On glittery boobs and translating clothing into meaning

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Trigger Warnings on this post and the links in it for rape and violence against oppressed groups UPDATE: I've closed the comments section for this post because I don't even wanna know what's going on down there anymore! Everybody (including myself) be accusing everybody of everything, and no one is discussing the actual content anymore. Anyone who still wants to chat can pack it up and move it to Twitter. Today I read a post on the blog  Rage Against the Minivan (which I don't read … [Read more...]

What is a Rape Myth?

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This post is part of a series called "You Are Not Your Own," focusing on rape and sexual assault in Christian relationship/dating books. Trigger Warning for Rape, Sexual Assault, and Victim Blaming Attitudes When I first started contemplating my research project, I thought I'd focus on rape myths. I thought I'd get a list of rape myths, read through the books I'd chosen to read for this study (Real Marriage by Mark and Grace Driscoll, I Kissed Dating Goodbye, by Joshua Harris, When God … [Read more...]

Elizabeth Smart, chewed gum, roses, cars, and me.

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Trigger Warning for Rape, Sexual Assault, and "Slut Shaming" As you may have seen, this storyabout rescued kidnapping survivor Elizabeth Smart has been making the rounds on the internet. Smart said she "felt so dirty and so filthy" after she was raped by her captor, and she understands why someone wouldn't run "because of that alone." Smart spoke at a Johns Hopkins human trafficking forum, saying she was raised in a religious household and recalled a school teacher who spoke once about … [Read more...]

New blog series on Patheos!

In case you missed yesterday's announcement, this blog has moved to the Patheos blogging network! I'll be posting updates here for awhile to redirect people over there, but you may want to head over to http://www.patheos.com/blogs/sarahoverthemoon/ and sign up for email updates if you want to keep in touch in the long run! I hope to see you over there, because I'm starting a new series called "You Are Not Your Own" in which I'll be sharing the results of some research that I've done on rape … [Read more...]

New Series on Rape and Sexual Assault in Christian Dating Books: “You Are Not Your Own”

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If you're a regular reader from my old address at SarahOverTheMoon.com, or if you follow me on social media (and if you don't, check out my Facebook page and Twitter account!), you've probably heard me about a research project that I've been working on since January for my undergraduate capstone. I've been reading Christian dating books and analyzing the messages that they send (or fail to send) about rape, sexual assault, and consent. My project is called "You Are Not Your Own: Rape, Sexual … [Read more...]

Spiritual Abuse Awareness Week: My Guest Post at Rachel Held Evans

Today I'm guest posting at Rachel Held Evans' blog, talking about abuse and images of God. God is love. I believe that with my whole heart. But what is God? And what is love? We need to ask ourselves these questions and think deeply about them before we can even begin to start solving the problem of abuse in the Christian church. Read the rest at RachelHeldEvans.com! … [Read more...]

Must reads!

Lots of posts that I want to share this week. I hope you'll check them out, as they are all important! They discuss a wide variety of topics, from God, to rape culture, to The Wizard of Oz, to racism/homophobia, to the dangers of fraternizing with bears. "For most of my Christian experience, I’ve only ever heard God described in verbs. Very busy verbs." "If you want to know why we need to educate men not to be sexually aggressive, look no further than what happened when Zerlina Maxwell went … [Read more...]


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