Spiritual Abuse Awareness Week: My Guest Post at Rachel Held Evans

Today I'm guest posting at Rachel Held Evans' blog, talking about abuse and images of God. God is love. I believe that with my whole heart.But what is God? And what is love?We need to ask ourselves these questions and think deeply about them before we can even begin to start solving the problem of abuse in the Christian church. Read the rest at RachelHeldEvans.com! … [Read more...]

Must reads!

Lots of posts that I want to share this week. I hope you'll check them out, as they are all important! They discuss a wide variety of topics, from God, to rape culture, to The Wizard of Oz, to racism/homophobia, to the dangers of fraternizing with bears."For most of my Christian experience, I’ve only ever heard God described in verbs. Very busy verbs.""If you want to know why we need to educate men not to be sexually aggressive, look no further than what happened when Zerlina Maxwell went on … [Read more...]

My body remembers

[TRIGGER WARNINGS: Rape and Abuse]As many of you know, in highschool I spent a year in an abusive relationship. Some of my memories of my abuse are vague and foggy. But then other memories I remember well. The ones I remember the most clearly are the ones I remember not only in my mind, but in the rest of my body as well.As I think about my connection with my body, and I think about my commitment to reconnect with and love my body for Lent, I also have to think of the ways my body has been … [Read more...]

Damming up justice: King David, power, and rape

As many of you know, I've been doing research on Christian dating books and their treatment of rape and sexual assault. One such book that I've been reading is the infamous I Kissed Dating Goodbye, by Joshua Harris.In one section that I found interesting, Harris is explaining that "purity does not happen by accident. After telling the story of David and Bathsheba, and reminding us that protecting our purity is a constant process, Josh Harris goes on to explain the "seductive spirit of ido … [Read more...]

Must Reads!

It's been awhile since I've had the time to sit down and post links to my favorite blog posts. So I'm going to catch up today, and share some of my favorite posts from the past 2 or 3 weeks. Enjoy these smart people and their smart words!"If there is one thing that Western Christians and atheists have in common it is a shared legacy of colonizing bodies of color.""You can get a lot of people to do what you want them to do or believe what you want them to believe by saying God will be … [Read more...]

Let me be angry.

Trigger Warning for abuse and rape: I've been tired of fighting. Been feeling like nothing is coming through. Been terrified of being dismissed as an angry feminist. But being too filled with words--bursting at the seams with them. All the words I've held back because of fear and good ol' Christian niceties.All those words can't be contained anymore.Because things are wrong.Things are unfair.People are hurting.How can you just stand there?And there I go again. I guess I am just an … [Read more...]

Men who think consent is overrated are not good men.

TRIGGER WARNING: Rape(thanks to Ryan Stauffer for bringing this to my attention)Recently, The Good Men Project--who think of themselves as "a glimpse of what enlightened masculinity might look like in the 21st century"--tweeted a story that I blame for the fact that I skipped lunch today. It literally made me lose my appetite.I've had problems with The Good Men Project in the past (this post by Amy Mitchell lays out just of few of my reasons why). But the misogynist post I read today … [Read more...]

A follow-up on complementarianism and rape culture

{trigger warning for rape} This is a follow up to my recent blog post, "Complimentarianism's ugly relationship with rape"I recently wrote a blog post in which I proposed that complementarianism benefits from rape culture. This post got me called a slanderer, a totalitarian communist propagandist, and even got me compared to a rapist lurking in the dark corners of the internet waiting to attack innocent men like Douglas Wilson and call them rape advocates against their will. This follow-up post … [Read more...]

Complementarianism’s ugly relationship with rape

[Trigger warning: rape apologism][Update: I've changed some mentions of "evangelical leaders" to "complementarian leaders" to clarify that I am referring specifically to complementarians in this post. I have a habit of using the two interchangeably because of my experiences in evangelicalism, but there is a growing number of awesome feminist evangelicals out there who don't deserve to be lumped in with complementarians]Over the past few months, I've called out evangelical Christian … [Read more...]

Losing my purity…ring.

Hi friends! I'm over at Love, Joy, Feminism today talking about purity rings. My cousin gave me a purity ring for Christmas in 2005. She also gave them to several other young women in our Independent Fundamental Baptist youth group. I don’t think any of us fully realized what we were saying to the world by wearing them—“I have never had a penis in my vagina!”—but we wore them with pride. When another girl would get too involved with a boyfriend but still wear her purity ring, we would whisper, an … [Read more...]